Insights Into Teens: Episode 73 “Q&A Series: Friends and Family”

• Introductions
  • Insights Into Teens Episode 73 “Q&A Series: Friends and Family”
  • My insightful and intelligent co-host Madison Whalen

• Friends
  • Name four qualities you want your friends to have.
  • Would you consider yourself to be more of a shy person or an outgoing person?
  • Have you ever wanted to be popular?
  • Who is your best friend? What do you like about him/her? What do you think they like about you?
  • Who do you wish would listen more closely to you?
  • Do you have any friends you’re worried about right now?
  • Are you happy with the number of friends you have?
  • Who in your class is a really good friend to others?
  • Has anyone ever been a bad friend to you?
  • What does it mean to be popular at your school?
  • Do you want to be popular?
  • What do you think true popularity looks like?
  • Have you ever had the opportunity to help someone? Tell us about your experience.
  • Is there anyone at school that you would like to get to know better?
  • Is there anyone at school that seems to get left out or teased a lot?
      
• Family
  • How many siblings do you have, and what are their ages? Are you close to them?
  • Do you respect your parents?
  • Do you argue with your parents?
  • Do you enjoy spending time with your parents?
  • Do your parents “get you”?
  • Do your parents argue with each other a lot?
  • Do you parents love each other?
  • Have you ever gotten angry at your parents?
  • What is one trait that each of your parents have that you would like to have?
  • Do you want to have children and be a parent some day?
  • Do you think you would make a good parent?
  • If there was one thing you could change about each of your parents what would it be?
  • 
      
• Closing Remarks and Shoutouts
    

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welcome to insights into teens a podcast

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series exploring the issues and

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challenges of today’s youth your hosts

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are Joseph and Madison Whalen a father

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and daughter team making their way

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through the challenges of the teenage

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years

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welcome to insights in the teens this is

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episode 73 another one of our Q&A series

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this is friends and family

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I’m your host oh excuse me I am your

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host Joseph Whelan and my insightful and

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intelligent co-host Madison Whalen hello

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everyone how are you doing today Maddy

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pretty good so I had thought we had

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finished up our Q&A series a couple

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weeks ago when we did our one on

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existential and religion question and

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some stuff and turns out I had this one

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waiting in the wings as well so I kind

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of lied back there saying that was the

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last one Wow

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so we’re gonna have a little bit of fun

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today we’re gonna talk about some

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questions related to friends and family

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we’re gonna get to know you a little bit

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better and then we’ll finish up with

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your final thoughts clothing closing

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thoughts and shout outs like we usually

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do alrighty ready to get going

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programming note we are doing this with

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a tropical storm and actually blowing

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off the coast of New Jersey right now so

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hopefully it does not kick up some winds

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here and knock our power out in the

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middle of the podcast hopefully we can

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get through the whole podcast yeah that

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would be bad yeah so here we go let’s

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start out with the questions so the

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first questions that we’re going to get

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into today deal with friends so we want

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to find out how you define friendship

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what you look forward to in friends how

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you treat your friends and so forth so

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kind of keep that in mind and as we go

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through these alrighty so the first

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question is mean four qualities that you

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want your friends to have all righty so

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one is I want them to be kind I don’t

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want them to be mean and end up lowering

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any of my mental status like self esteem

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anything like that I want them to be

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somewhat loyal so they don’t abandon me

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at the last second so that’d be nice I’d

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also want them to be understanding

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because especially in my sixth grade

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year I tended to have sort of anger

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issues but it was mainly due to mood

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swings that I was dealing with at the

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time because I had just experienced that

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and it was a big man and it was a big

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leap for me and I didn’t exactly stick

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the landing and finally I want them to

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be kind of crazy I’m I don’t like people

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who are kind of saying and I want people

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to make me laugh by just being kind of

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crazy all right so so we’ve got nice

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we’ve got loyal we’ve got crazy and what

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was the fourth one understanding

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understanding so of the friends that you

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have now who unfortunately under the

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current conditions you don’t get to see

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all that often but of the friends that

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you have now do they all meet these

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qualities most of them yeah not all of

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them have the crazy trait but they’re

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still enough to make me laugh they’re

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not exactly like I’m not looking for

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completely crazy people I just want

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people who are humorous in a way so

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human crazy kind of go hand in hand on

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that point

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sure well and if they hang around with

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you long enough I think your personality

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kind of seeps into that and you

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interject a little bit of that crazy in

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there chill all right so our next

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question is would you consider yourself

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to be more of a shy person or more of an

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outgoing person um I kind of have a bit

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of both but I’d go more towards the shy

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side mainly because I’m not

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intentionally outgoing like the way I

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met some of my friends I was the one who

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would go out but in others in other

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instances they just came to me so

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meeting my friends I’m kind of going

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sort of with that standard and also how

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I interact with them because sometimes

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I’m not always the first

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one that texts them with some of my

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friends I am with others they just

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immediately text me or call me so in a

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way half and half more on the shy side

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though so the outgoing side of you what

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is it that brings out that outgoing side

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is it boredom is it creativity what is

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it that makes you an outgoing person

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well it’s sometimes the boredom when I

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want to hang out with them and other

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times it’s just because I want to hang

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out with them and they make me smile and

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stuff like that okay I can understand

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that

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so the next question kind of next couple

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questions kind of deal with popularity

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everybody like nobody wants to be

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unpopular I think I don’t I don’t think

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anyone actually strives to be unpopular

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in school have you ever wanted to be

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popular like when I was in school I was

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indifferent whether I was popular or not

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I was there to learn I did what I had to

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do and I got out of there and did them

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you know whatever it was that I did so I

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never really worried about being popular

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or getting elected to council school

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council or being a captain of a football

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team that was really not my thing

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have you ever wanted to be popular

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probably when I was younger because back

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then I was way more outgoing than I am

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now before I had like my anxiety kick in

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and the fear of everything else

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um so I’m pretty sure when I was younger

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I wanted to be popular I wanted to have

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loads of friends but I mean in a way I

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didn’t intentionally want to be the most

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popular person in school because as I

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got older like people at my school like

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especially in my elementary school since

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I’d gone there for all five years people

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had started to know my name more and I

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had no idea who they were and it felt

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kind of weird and that’s kind of how it

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started my excavation for not exactly

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wanting to be incredibly popular then

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once all the anxiety kicked in

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and the fact that people are kind of

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mean and ice in middle school and so on

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I kind of lost touch to that and also

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the fact that I became much more shy and

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enclosed and yeah okay well I guess

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we’re lucky having such a shy person on

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a podcast like this and opening up yeah

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so speaking of being popular of all of

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your friends do you have a friend who

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you consider to be your best friend not

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really because I hang out with like I

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hang out with a group of friends but I

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also have friends in my middle school

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who are my age

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while the girlfriends I hang out with

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our neighbors and they’re a little

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younger than I am I don’t really have a

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best friend I just hang out with the

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people who are good friends with I

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really don’t have a complete best friend

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I have known my one friend Mariah for

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five years though I think almost six

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something are along those lines

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I’ve known her for the longest I think

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so Mariah gets seniority in this well I

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should then well I mean if we’re going

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by how long I’ve known them

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I’ve long I’ve known Mariah the longest

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a group of younger friends for our

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neighbors I’ve kind of known them for

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around the same time and so the people I

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met in middle school this year I’ve only

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known them for how long I’ve ever I’ve

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met them I really wouldn’t consider any

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of them to be my best friends or when

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I’m I want only one of them to be my

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best friend

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technically I call all of them my best

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friends I don’t know if you can have

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multiple than one because hey you make

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up your own rules yep so what do you

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like about all of your best friends um

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I’ll go off with so my younger friends

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which there are three of them and

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they’re all my neighbors I like that

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they’re able to completely make me laugh

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and they’re much more wild than some of

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my other friends who are my age

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and I like that oh you know as you get

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older you start to mellow out yeah I

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like that like young energy they still

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have and some of those stories are

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really funny and I love hanging out with

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them I hang out with them more than I

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hang out with some of my other friends

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but I do hang out with them and still

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talk to all of my friends um for Mariah

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I like how she’s for my older friends I

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like how they’re much more understanding

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and helpful when I’m going through hard

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times more emotionally mature yeah like

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I like the aspect that my younger

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friends are wild and I like the aspect

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that my older friends are more mature

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and men and able to help me out if I

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have any like mental issues going on

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okay they think they are

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that’s a nice balance of qualities that

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you have there I think you’re very

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fortunate to have that level balance

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between your friends what do you think

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they like about you um well for my

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younger friends I’m sort of that older

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mature figure in a way I try to make

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sure that they understand their

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decisions and whenever something’s up

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with them I try to sort of parent it out

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and help them overcome it because

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sometimes my friends are my younger

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friends are upset and I want to try to

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make sure that they open up and that I

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can do anything I can to help with that

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and for my older friends it’s kind of

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the same thing they go through stuff and

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they goof they go through other stuff

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that the younger kids don’t normally go

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through that I don’t normally understand

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what they’re going through but I still

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try to help work it out with it so

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you’re like the the mommy can of the

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litter here then sort of I guess nothing

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wrong with that it’s always nice to me

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you can help your friends out yeah

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so who do you wish would listen more

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closely to you um I’d say all my older

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friends listen very well to me my

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younger friends they kind of I mean they

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listen to me it’s just they’re wild

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personalities give them this

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the sanshin to kind of do weird and in

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ways not the best situational stuff and

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you do you chalk that up to the age

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difference in the maturity level is it

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something else I just say that it’s just

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because they’re younger and just the

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fact that I’m older and it’s just sort

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of in a way like it’s sort of a parental

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thing like you know how we when you’re a

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parent and you have kids and you yes and

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they like run around and don’t exactly

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know how the world works and they have

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like I don’t know how to describe it but

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it’s sort of they’re more open they’re

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not they’re less actually they’re less

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open to the world and all its dangers

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and my even more naive yeah now do you

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think you exhibited some of those same

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traits yourself when you were younger I

0:13:06.620,0:13:12.900
mean yeah I wasn’t completely cautious

0:13:10.230,0:13:15.600
as I am now I definitely didn’t know a

0:13:12.900,0:13:17.670
lot about the world until I wasn’t six

0:13:15.600,0:13:19.800
and fifth grade that’s when I really

0:13:17.670,0:13:25.040
learned about all of it

0:13:19.800,0:13:28.530
and when I was younger I was I mean I

0:13:25.040,0:13:30.810
was much more social back then and I

0:13:28.530,0:13:32.520
didn’t really have much fears besides

0:13:30.810,0:13:36.060
the fact they’re spiders and bugs and

0:13:32.520,0:13:38.430
the dark but now I have a lot of other

0:13:36.060,0:13:40.800
fears that have built up because of the

0:13:38.430,0:13:42.330
fact that I got older and I don’t think

0:13:40.800,0:13:46.680
that my younger friends have actually

0:13:42.330,0:13:48.210
had that built up yet so okay well it’s

0:13:46.680,0:13:52.650
good to see that your fears are evolving

0:13:48.210,0:13:54.420
yep do you have any friends right now

0:13:52.650,0:13:55.950
that you’re actually worried about I

0:13:54.420,0:13:57.270
mean I need my friends who I haven’t

0:13:55.950,0:14:01.710
really talked to my younger friends

0:13:57.270,0:14:04.530
always keep in touch with me cuz they

0:14:01.710,0:14:06.060
just have that spirit I haven’t talked

0:14:04.530,0:14:08.670
to my older friends in a little while

0:14:06.060,0:14:10.560
though sometimes I message them and see

0:14:08.670,0:14:12.810
if they’ll reply but when they don’t

0:14:10.560,0:14:13.710
I’m worried especially since what’s

0:14:12.810,0:14:17.250
going on with the war

0:14:13.710,0:14:19.410
old now and I’m just worried about them

0:14:17.250,0:14:21.270
when if they don’t answer any of the

0:14:19.410,0:14:23.520
text I understand that they might be

0:14:21.270,0:14:25.470
busy but if they don’t answer after a

0:14:23.520,0:14:29.940
while I start getting a bit nervous

0:14:25.470,0:14:33.990
especially with if like they had trouble

0:14:29.940,0:14:36.720
at home and with school and that all of

0:14:33.990,0:14:38.940
this was just affecting them and it just

0:14:36.720,0:14:44.400
makes me kind of worried and I don’t

0:14:38.940,0:14:45.360
want them to have well I’m just worried

0:14:44.400,0:14:47.370
at this point

0:14:45.360,0:14:49.050
well and I think that’s kind of a sign

0:14:47.370,0:14:51.510
of the times there’s a lot of things

0:14:49.050,0:14:54.090
that are wearing with you know the

0:14:51.510,0:14:57.140
Kovach going on and homeschooling and

0:14:54.090,0:15:00.360
parents at home or out of work

0:14:57.140,0:15:01.770
so you know it’s nice for you to reach

0:15:00.360,0:15:04.530
out to your friends and keep in touch

0:15:01.770,0:15:07.080
with them and you know follow up with

0:15:04.530,0:15:08.880
them make sure they’re okay and you know

0:15:07.080,0:15:11.850
try to lift their spirits I think more

0:15:08.880,0:15:13.860
than anything else so there’s nothing

0:15:11.850,0:15:15.990
wrong with with being worried about the

0:15:13.860,0:15:17.850
people you care about and that’s that

0:15:15.990,0:15:22.020
worry that that helps us get through

0:15:17.850,0:15:23.700
these times so with all that said and

0:15:22.020,0:15:27.090
done all your best friends you have all

0:15:23.700,0:15:28.710
these best friends right now um are you

0:15:27.090,0:15:30.840
happy with the number of friends that

0:15:28.710,0:15:33.030
you have would you like more friends

0:15:30.840,0:15:35.340
would you like less friends how’s that

0:15:33.030,0:15:38.160
balance working out honestly I’m pretty

0:15:35.340,0:15:40.860
fun with all my friends I have now I can

0:15:38.160,0:15:43.800
relate with something with each of them

0:15:40.860,0:15:46.440
and I like the different diverse area I

0:15:43.800,0:15:48.300
have I don’t think I need more friends

0:15:46.440,0:15:51.630
but I’m always open to have more friends

0:15:48.300,0:15:54.960
if they need someone for a friend but

0:15:51.630,0:15:57.540
I’m happy with the amount I have now I’m

0:15:54.960,0:16:00.440
not looking for any new friends but if

0:15:57.540,0:16:03.090
someone needs a friend then sure I’ll

0:16:00.440,0:16:04.740
I’ll make more room okay

0:16:03.090,0:16:06.720
well good to know there’s always room

0:16:04.740,0:16:09.090
for more friends yep it’s like the

0:16:06.720,0:16:10.500
Haunted Mansion scene I was gonna go

0:16:09.090,0:16:18.270
with pie there’s always room for more

0:16:10.500,0:16:20.640
party version or the edible one well the

0:16:18.270,0:16:22.800
numerical version is always the same you

0:16:20.640,0:16:26.500
know it’s always more characters right

0:16:22.800,0:16:29.560
so there’s always room for pie there yep

0:16:26.500,0:16:32.800
so who in your class do you think is a

0:16:29.560,0:16:36.070
really good friend to others like who’s

0:16:32.800,0:16:38.890
who’s that outgoing one who was always

0:16:36.070,0:16:40.660
willing to help and is willing to lift

0:16:38.890,0:16:43.030
people up that if they see someone’s

0:16:40.660,0:16:44.980
something’s bothering someone you know

0:16:43.030,0:16:46.930
they’ll go over and try to console them

0:16:44.980,0:16:48.910
and try to make them feel better who do

0:16:46.930,0:16:51.880
you think is that because every class

0:16:48.910,0:16:54.190
has that kind of person who do you think

0:16:51.880,0:16:56.380
that is or do you not have one of those

0:16:54.190,0:16:58.030
in your class well I have multiple

0:16:56.380,0:17:01.890
classes so I’m going to refer to my

0:16:58.030,0:17:04.660
history class with a girl named summer

0:17:01.890,0:17:06.580
summer actually started out I think in

0:17:04.660,0:17:08.290
sixth grade was a new student in my

0:17:06.580,0:17:10.420
school and by the time we were in middle

0:17:08.290,0:17:14.200
school I had gone to know her a bit more

0:17:10.420,0:17:16.120
um and after me and her got paired on a

0:17:14.200,0:17:18.640
few projects and we talked more about

0:17:16.120,0:17:21.160
and we talked more and we learned a bit

0:17:18.640,0:17:22.660
more about each other every instance we

0:17:21.160,0:17:24.640
sat next to each other every time I

0:17:22.660,0:17:26.470
would come in and she would normally be

0:17:24.640,0:17:28.270
there she’d always say hi to me and I’d

0:17:26.470,0:17:31.000
say hi to her and we talked a little bit

0:17:28.270,0:17:32.710
and then we get to work so I definitely

0:17:31.000,0:17:34.900
think she’d be one of the more outgoing

0:17:32.710,0:17:36.970
people who would definitely want to help

0:17:34.900,0:17:39.310
others in need and that’s interesting

0:17:36.970,0:17:40.870
especially if she came in as that as the

0:17:39.310,0:17:43.750
new kid who didn’t grow up with all the

0:17:40.870,0:17:45.460
other kids I have to imagine it’s got to

0:17:43.750,0:17:48.670
be very difficult to come into a new

0:17:45.460,0:17:50.800
school and be that new kid because I

0:17:48.670,0:17:52.840
never had to do that

0:17:50.800,0:17:54.970
it’s got to be tough being that new kid

0:17:52.840,0:17:58.330
and still being outgoing because you

0:17:54.970,0:18:01.150
there has to be a lot of awkwardness on

0:17:58.330,0:18:03.390
a lot of pressure do you think she had a

0:18:01.150,0:18:06.370
hard time when she first came in were

0:18:03.390,0:18:08.860
were people receptive of her outgoing

0:18:06.370,0:18:11.740
personality well I wasn’t entirely sure

0:18:08.860,0:18:13.780
too much about her especially when she

0:18:11.740,0:18:16.690
first came in I never knew too much

0:18:13.780,0:18:19.750
about her and it only started in seventh

0:18:16.690,0:18:21.580
grade but she looked like she had a good

0:18:19.750,0:18:24.430
friend base whenever I saw her around

0:18:21.580,0:18:26.560
like outside at recess or at lunch she

0:18:24.430,0:18:28.030
looked like she was still the outgoing

0:18:26.560,0:18:30.340
person and people didn’t really have a

0:18:28.030,0:18:31.660
problem with it that’s good that’s good

0:18:30.340,0:18:33.640
you don’t want to see people that are

0:18:31.660,0:18:36.820
outgoing get discouraged and difficult

0:18:33.640,0:18:38.950
situations yeah so we’ve talked about

0:18:36.820,0:18:42.330
what makes good friends in our

0:18:38.950,0:18:45.100
your friends good and and all that stuff

0:18:42.330,0:18:46.450
but there’s always the flip side of the

0:18:45.100,0:18:49.180
coin there there’s always we’ve always

0:18:46.450,0:18:53.950
had bad friends and I had you know I had

0:18:49.180,0:18:55.150
some bad friends for me bad friends were

0:18:53.950,0:18:56.770
the friends that you thought you could

0:18:55.150,0:18:58.540
count on and when the chips were down

0:18:56.770,0:18:59.800
and you needed to count on them they

0:18:58.540,0:19:02.230
weren’t there

0:18:59.800,0:19:05.380
I’m not talking when I say bad friends

0:19:02.230,0:19:07.570
I’m not talking about friends who do

0:19:05.380,0:19:09.820
drugs or steal or stuff like that I’m

0:19:07.570,0:19:12.970
I’m talking about friends who don’t live

0:19:09.820,0:19:16.210
up to that expectation that you have of

0:19:12.970,0:19:19.110
them of being a friend have you ever had

0:19:16.210,0:19:23.650
any bad friends based on that definition

0:19:19.110,0:19:26.020
um now that I think about it not that I

0:19:23.650,0:19:28.350
know of most of my friends were there

0:19:26.020,0:19:32.800
for me and of course friends come and go

0:19:28.350,0:19:35.290
yeah but most of my friends um still

0:19:32.800,0:19:37.180
live up to my expectations and I don’t

0:19:35.290,0:19:40.270
really set too many high expectations

0:19:37.180,0:19:43.660
just as long as they understand me and

0:19:40.270,0:19:45.490
they’re willing to accept me and that

0:19:43.660,0:19:47.740
they’re just kind of or all and they’re

0:19:45.490,0:19:49.570
able to make me laugh I’m perfectly fine

0:19:47.740,0:19:53.620
well that’s good that’s good I have not

0:19:49.570,0:19:55.660
had a lot of bad friends so I was

0:19:53.620,0:19:58.420
fortunate in that and it seems that you

0:19:55.660,0:20:01.060
are fortunate as well and not having a

0:19:58.420,0:20:03.190
lot of bad friends yeah but I did go

0:20:01.060,0:20:05.580
through sort of a rough patch in sixth

0:20:03.190,0:20:09.070
grade not necessarily with a bad friend

0:20:05.580,0:20:10.750
just fight with some of my good friends

0:20:09.070,0:20:13.510
and they were mainly caused by me

0:20:10.750,0:20:15.730
because I didn’t know how to control my

0:20:13.510,0:20:17.740
emotions and a lot of stuff made me

0:20:15.730,0:20:19.840
upset and angry and I went through a lot

0:20:17.740,0:20:21.850
of mood swings are you still friends

0:20:19.840,0:20:24.130
with those friends oh yeah we always

0:20:21.850,0:20:26.140
made up by the end of the day and I

0:20:24.130,0:20:28.000
always had time to calm down and we’re

0:20:26.140,0:20:30.070
still good friends to this day so and

0:20:28.000,0:20:31.060
that’s all a man who’s friends fight and

0:20:30.070,0:20:32.950
you know what happens

0:20:31.060,0:20:35.110
there’s disagreements there’s

0:20:32.950,0:20:38.220
differences of opinions sometimes it’s

0:20:35.110,0:20:41.009
moves sometimes it’s hormones

0:20:38.220,0:20:43.350
but ultimately the the friends that are

0:20:41.009,0:20:45.120
the keepers are the ones that are there

0:20:43.350,0:20:47.669
still for you at the end of the day even

0:20:45.120,0:20:49.590
when you do have these arguments yeah so

0:20:47.669,0:20:53.340
it’s good to see you were able to

0:20:49.590,0:20:55.320
rectify those so we talked about

0:20:53.340,0:20:56.549
popularity and I kind of kind of put

0:20:55.320,0:20:59.490
these out of order I should have put

0:20:56.549,0:21:03.289
this one up further what does it mean to

0:20:59.490,0:21:05.759
be popular at your school I’m not

0:21:03.289,0:21:09.000
entirely store what the standards are

0:21:05.759,0:21:11.429
for school at this point because I never

0:21:09.000,0:21:14.639
really seeked a lot of popularity I’d

0:21:11.429,0:21:16.669
assume it mean that almost everyone knew

0:21:14.639,0:21:20.159
about you and you were a good student

0:21:16.669,0:21:22.289
and that a lot of people wanted to know

0:21:20.159,0:21:24.629
you be friends with you I want to be you

0:21:22.289,0:21:30.110
and you had a lot of friends and just

0:21:24.629,0:21:33.690
you were overall just super well known

0:21:30.110,0:21:36.720
it’s basically sort of being famous but

0:21:33.690,0:21:40.039
more called popularity and is mainly

0:21:36.720,0:21:43.769
seen in school see as I was growing up

0:21:40.039,0:21:47.750
popularity was subjective so you had

0:21:43.769,0:21:50.909
different groups so you had the athletes

0:21:47.750,0:21:53.009
then you had what we called the preppies

0:21:50.909,0:21:55.200
the ones that were you know the well –

0:21:53.009,0:21:58.830
dues and stuff thing you had like the

0:21:55.200,0:22:01.769
artsy fartsy group and then you had what

0:21:58.830,0:22:03.090
what at the time we called stoners

0:22:01.769,0:22:05.730
because they were the ones that would go

0:22:03.090,0:22:09.570
off and smoke and you know they were

0:22:05.730,0:22:11.639
like the the goth emo ones who would go

0:22:09.570,0:22:13.259
off and sort of do their own thing and

0:22:11.639,0:22:14.700
they were kind of the ones that your

0:22:13.259,0:22:17.970
parents told you not to hang out with

0:22:14.700,0:22:21.059
sort of but each of those groups had its

0:22:17.970,0:22:23.850
own standard for being popular

0:22:21.059,0:22:25.799
and I managed to get along with all of

0:22:23.850,0:22:26.970
them because I and I just kind of have

0:22:25.799,0:22:31.379
that kind of person and all the I

0:22:26.970,0:22:32.879
suppose but each group had a different

0:22:31.379,0:22:35.429
standard for being popular like for

0:22:32.879,0:22:37.980
athletics you know the best athletes

0:22:35.429,0:22:41.669
were the popular ones you know for the

0:22:37.980,0:22:43.860
preppies you know it was the guys who

0:22:41.669,0:22:47.879
had the nicest clothes or the nicest

0:22:43.860,0:22:50.490
cars or whatever it was for the geeks

0:22:47.879,0:22:52.740
the this the ultra smart kids it was the

0:22:50.490,0:22:56.940
ones who are all in honor society and

0:22:52.740,0:22:58.919
stuff do you have that kind of dynamic

0:22:56.940,0:23:02.610
at your school there where you’ve got

0:22:58.919,0:23:05.519
different factions let’s say well I’ve

0:23:02.610,0:23:07.139
never really seen people in cliques cuz

0:23:05.519,0:23:09.990
we’re all on a schedule and we don’t

0:23:07.139,0:23:12.080
normally go around the only thing that I

0:23:09.990,0:23:14.850
could think of was at the lunch table

0:23:12.080,0:23:16.950
like I sat at a lunch table

0:23:14.850,0:23:20.009
I was actually kind of forced to sit at

0:23:16.950,0:23:23.190
a lunch table with a bunch of girls in

0:23:20.009,0:23:26.129
seventh grade who I had no idea who any

0:23:23.190,0:23:29.869
of them really were and they all seemed

0:23:26.129,0:23:33.899
to be like I’m not sure they were just I

0:23:29.869,0:23:35.850
don’t know what group to call them but I

0:23:33.899,0:23:38.909
just sat with them and I didn’t feel

0:23:35.850,0:23:40.799
like I belonged because I wasn’t as

0:23:38.909,0:23:43.830
talkative as they were I didn’t really

0:23:40.799,0:23:45.960
talk to them and I just and and I just

0:23:43.830,0:23:49.350
said it low and I just said eating my

0:23:45.960,0:23:51.240
lunch alone okay in a way so then let me

0:23:49.350,0:23:54.840
ask you because because clearly you have

0:23:51.240,0:23:56.759
I guess your own idea of what it is to

0:23:54.840,0:23:59.519
be popular what do you think true

0:23:56.759,0:24:04.200
popularity looks like what what does

0:23:59.519,0:24:05.480
someone have to do or be for them to be

0:24:04.200,0:24:10.619
popular to you

0:24:05.480,0:24:14.009
well first well I think being popular is

0:24:10.619,0:24:17.610
being liked is like how the whole thing

0:24:14.009,0:24:20.399
is because no matter what I think mostly

0:24:17.610,0:24:25.289
ideas of people wanting to be popular is

0:24:20.399,0:24:28.590
to get the is to get the satisfaction of

0:24:25.289,0:24:30.809
others sort of like have being the one

0:24:28.590,0:24:32.820
that everyone talks about or being the

0:24:30.809,0:24:33.170
one that everyone wants to be friends

0:24:32.820,0:24:35.870
with

0:24:33.170,0:24:39.550
something like that okay and it doesn’t

0:24:35.870,0:24:42.050
matter what you do but all you really

0:24:39.550,0:24:45.140
but it they all have the same goal in

0:24:42.050,0:24:47.390
the end to try and have as many friends

0:24:45.140,0:24:50.060
as possible and to be and to get their

0:24:47.390,0:24:54.290
name said throughout the school pretty

0:24:50.060,0:24:56.090
much okay so it’s kind of like kind of

0:24:54.290,0:24:58.460
help people deal with social media now

0:24:56.090,0:25:00.200
it’s how many lights you get and how

0:24:58.460,0:25:03.290
many followers you get and stuff like

0:25:00.200,0:25:06.170
that I guess so yeah okay I could I

0:25:03.290,0:25:10.130
could see that so let’s change gears a

0:25:06.170,0:25:12.080
little bit here and talk about helping

0:25:10.130,0:25:15.800
others one of the things that you’ll run

0:25:12.080,0:25:17.840
into as you get older and you start

0:25:15.800,0:25:20.620
looking at going into college and stuff

0:25:17.840,0:25:23.240
like that is community service

0:25:20.620,0:25:25.400
volunteering so a lot of colleges look

0:25:23.240,0:25:30.350
for that to determine what kind of

0:25:25.400,0:25:33.230
person you are as an individual so have

0:25:30.350,0:25:36.830
you had an opportunity recently to help

0:25:33.230,0:25:39.680
someone maybe help somebody tutor

0:25:36.830,0:25:43.160
someone help them with their grades if

0:25:39.680,0:25:44.330
somebody was having emotional issues or

0:25:43.160,0:25:46.250
something like that you were able to

0:25:44.330,0:25:47.780
help them with that have you have you

0:25:46.250,0:25:49.280
been able to do anything I know under

0:25:47.780,0:25:52.130
the current circumstances is very

0:25:49.280,0:25:54.260
difficult but have you had an

0:25:52.130,0:25:57.200
opportunity to do that in the last

0:25:54.260,0:25:58.940
couple of years I mean yeah um

0:25:57.200,0:26:01.010
especially when I was still in my

0:25:58.940,0:26:02.660
elementary school I would help my

0:26:01.010,0:26:05.000
younger friends if they didn’t

0:26:02.660,0:26:07.430
understand what their homework was or if

0:26:05.000,0:26:09.620
they had just gotten –nt or if someone

0:26:07.430,0:26:10.850
was being mean to them and I had to try

0:26:09.620,0:26:13.040
and make sure that they were still

0:26:10.850,0:26:15.500
trying to be smooth that so they would

0:26:13.040,0:26:17.030
still be happy with my older friends it

0:26:15.500,0:26:20.210
was sort of the same thing if they had

0:26:17.030,0:26:21.980
stuff going on I would try to make sure

0:26:20.210,0:26:24.770
that they still had a smile on the face

0:26:21.980,0:26:29.210
and that they were okay and that I could

0:26:24.770,0:26:31.730
be of service and I actually have been

0:26:29.210,0:26:37.550
on FaceTime with my younger friends and

0:26:31.730,0:26:40.970
to my younger friends have were arguing

0:26:37.550,0:26:43.070
with each other I don’t know exactly I

0:26:40.970,0:26:46.040
don’t know exactly who started it but

0:26:43.070,0:26:46.860
they were both kind of reluctant they

0:26:46.040,0:26:49.650
had a lot of

0:26:46.860,0:26:52.260
going on and I wanted to try and help

0:26:49.650,0:26:53.790
them resolve it and in the end they kind

0:26:52.260,0:26:55.920
of did um

0:26:53.790,0:26:57.630
resolve it at least that I know of right

0:26:55.920,0:27:01.350
now they were still kind of fighting but

0:26:57.630,0:27:04.980
um no from what I know of now they’re

0:27:01.350,0:27:08.100
still fine okay well I think that’s all

0:27:04.980,0:27:10.620
the questions I was gonna ask you on

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friends let’s take a little break and

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we’ll come back and we’ll get into some

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so let’s talk family

0:28:30.570,0:28:37.570
you got mami and myself the cats

0:28:34.750,0:28:42.100
obviously obviously do you have any

0:28:37.570,0:28:44.290
siblings um I do have my brother Sam who

0:28:42.100,0:28:49.090
we have the podcast for insights not

0:28:44.290,0:28:54.490
tomorrow um so yeah so do you consider

0:28:49.090,0:28:57.480
yourself to be close to see him when we

0:28:54.490,0:29:03.400
were younger we used to be much closer

0:28:57.480,0:29:08.260
but after some family drama he he kind

0:29:03.400,0:29:10.330
of left and I kind of continued my older

0:29:08.260,0:29:13.330
years without him and then when he

0:29:10.330,0:29:17.170
started to come back it was kind of

0:29:13.330,0:29:21.970
weird because I had grown so much and he

0:29:17.170,0:29:24.940
also pretty he also grew as well and we

0:29:21.970,0:29:26.290
really didn’t know how to interact with

0:29:24.940,0:29:30.250
each other at this point

0:29:26.290,0:29:32.500
Sam knew me as just the innocent child I

0:29:30.250,0:29:35.350
was and now I’m a I’m pretty much a

0:29:32.500,0:29:40.660
teenager struggling with the struggles

0:29:35.350,0:29:42.280
of life yeah and I underst and I’m still

0:29:40.660,0:29:44.650
not even sure how to react to him

0:29:42.280,0:29:46.450
because I used to be like I thought I

0:29:44.650,0:29:47.980
was the annoying younger sister when I

0:29:46.450,0:29:49.390
was younger cuz I would always like

0:29:47.980,0:29:50.860
interrupt and playing games and I’d

0:29:49.390,0:29:54.430
always want to sit with him and watch

0:29:50.860,0:29:56.290
him and now it’s kind of weird cuz I’m

0:29:54.430,0:29:59.620
no longer the person who would just

0:29:56.290,0:30:02.460
deliberately go and socialize I would I

0:29:59.620,0:30:06.010
mean I’m okay but socializing and

0:30:02.460,0:30:08.920
talking with him but I don’t know it

0:30:06.010,0:30:11.940
just feels weird that he’s now back I

0:30:08.920,0:30:15.310
mean I’m still glad that he’s back just

0:30:11.940,0:30:17.860
it’s a bit weird so we have him on the

0:30:15.310,0:30:21.850
podcast a few episodes ago for your

0:30:17.860,0:30:23.830
siblings podcast and I think it it went

0:30:21.850,0:30:25.780
well I mean we it was more of a

0:30:23.830,0:30:29.700
question-and-answer session more than

0:30:25.780,0:30:34.450
anything else yeah is it something where

0:30:29.700,0:30:36.430
you’d want to rekindle that and and be

0:30:34.450,0:30:40.180
close to him again and try to get past

0:30:36.430,0:30:42.100
this kind of awkward stage I mean yeah

0:30:40.180,0:30:43.539
because the Q&A was mainly focused

0:30:42.100,0:30:45.369
towards him

0:30:43.539,0:30:47.529
and you didn’t really get to know too

0:30:45.369,0:30:49.749
much about me and immediately when he

0:30:47.529,0:30:51.369
asked the one question I just let out

0:30:49.749,0:30:54.669
with a huge answer that he wasn’t even

0:30:51.369,0:30:58.570
expecting yeah you tend to do that yeah

0:30:54.669,0:31:02.019
I monologue a lot okay well and and I

0:30:58.570,0:31:04.239
think you know with Sam coming back into

0:31:02.019,0:31:08.139
our lives again here we’ve we’ve all

0:31:04.239,0:31:09.850
kind of taken it with a bit of caution

0:31:08.139,0:31:11.679
you know we’ve all sort of played it

0:31:09.850,0:31:15.330
close to the vest there we don’t want to

0:31:11.679,0:31:15.330
kind of overstep our bounds and

0:31:15.780,0:31:22.540
inject any more drama into it as we try

0:31:19.000,0:31:25.020
to heal these things oh so you know time

0:31:22.540,0:31:28.480
heals all wounds they say so hopefully

0:31:25.020,0:31:30.640
with Sam coming back in to our lives on

0:31:28.480,0:31:32.590
a regular basis now time will allow us

0:31:30.640,0:31:36.760
to to sort of heal those wounds and

0:31:32.590,0:31:40.630
reform a relationship again moving right

0:31:36.760,0:31:43.810
along to the next awkward question do

0:31:40.630,0:31:46.420
you respect your parents yes I do I

0:31:43.810,0:31:48.520
think you guys deserve the respect like

0:31:46.420,0:31:51.130
we said in a respect podcast and a

0:31:48.520,0:31:54.190
couple of podcasts ago respect is

0:31:51.130,0:31:55.690
normally earned and especially since

0:31:54.190,0:31:57.700
you’ve guys have been a part of my life

0:31:55.690,0:32:02.530
for so long and pretty much your whole

0:31:57.700,0:32:08.170
life yes yes daddy kind of funny how

0:32:02.530,0:32:10.210
that works out yeah yeah so I definitely

0:32:08.170,0:32:12.790
think you’ve earned respect my respect

0:32:10.210,0:32:15.970
because you guys have been so good to me

0:32:12.790,0:32:19.150
you make sure I stay out live you make

0:32:15.970,0:32:23.980
sure I’m happy legally required to keep

0:32:19.150,0:32:26.230
you alive you know yes I know but you’ve

0:32:23.980,0:32:27.970
done so much other things like you

0:32:26.230,0:32:30.160
always try to make me happy even when

0:32:27.970,0:32:32.620
I’m having a bad day although sometimes

0:32:30.160,0:32:35.980
you’re not that much of a help because

0:32:32.620,0:32:38.200
you poke a stick in my cage yeah well

0:32:35.980,0:32:42.850
really good night you daddy we all have

0:32:38.200,0:32:45.070
our hobbies like this so the next

0:32:42.850,0:32:48.220
question just sort of naturally flows

0:32:45.070,0:32:50.710
from that one do you argue with your

0:32:48.220,0:32:55.390
parents and if you do why do you argue

0:32:50.710,0:32:57.820
with me well we don’t necessarily argue

0:32:55.390,0:33:01.900
we don’t call it arguing we call it play

0:32:57.820,0:33:04.240
fighting right we occasionally have play

0:33:01.900,0:33:08.850
fights on topics that don’t normally

0:33:04.240,0:33:11.740
cause for any interaction we just have

0:33:08.850,0:33:15.010
different opinions and we have play

0:33:11.740,0:33:18.160
fights and we are all welcome to our

0:33:15.010,0:33:21.200
differences of opinions and I think the

0:33:18.160,0:33:24.440
little debates that you and I have are

0:33:21.200,0:33:27.740
healthy in that it it kind of forces

0:33:24.440,0:33:30.679
each of us to look at a situation from a

0:33:27.740,0:33:33.049
different perspective yeah what about

0:33:30.679,0:33:35.299
with mommy do you have those kind of

0:33:33.049,0:33:37.850
heated discussions or arguments or

0:33:35.299,0:33:40.830
debates with mommy

0:33:37.850,0:33:42.899
unless it’s a real group conversation I

0:33:40.830,0:33:44.909
don’t normally have them with you I

0:33:42.899,0:33:46.409
think it’s with her I think it’s just

0:33:44.909,0:33:51.120
sort of a father-daughter thing that we

0:33:46.409,0:33:54.330
do in a way I guess I’m just lucky huh I

0:33:51.120,0:33:56.880
don’t know how many times that mommy

0:33:54.330,0:33:59.100
would really and I would really play

0:33:56.880,0:34:01.350
fight after this off to try and find out

0:33:59.100,0:34:02.220
some her go poke a stick in her cage and

0:34:01.350,0:34:08.250
see what happens

0:34:02.220,0:34:10.649
yeah so based on those questions do you

0:34:08.250,0:34:14.190
enjoy spending time with your parents

0:34:10.649,0:34:16.050
yeah I do when we used to go out I’d

0:34:14.190,0:34:19.260
enjoy going out to like Dave & Buster’s

0:34:16.050,0:34:22.470
or some restaurants with you guys and

0:34:19.260,0:34:24.659
then go in a concert as well now I enjoy

0:34:22.470,0:34:28.710
doing rapping with you guys watching

0:34:24.659,0:34:31.980
movies with you guys and overall doing

0:34:28.710,0:34:33.750
the podcast with you guys good good well

0:34:31.980,0:34:36.119
I’m glad because there’s gonna come an

0:34:33.750,0:34:38.070
age wind you’re not going to enjoy

0:34:36.119,0:34:40.440
spending time with us and I and I

0:34:38.070,0:34:45.409
shudder to think that that day is coming

0:34:40.440,0:34:48.089
sooner than I might want it to okay okay

0:34:45.409,0:34:49.889
I didn’t actually think that would have

0:34:48.089,0:34:53.639
been your answer I thought it would have

0:34:49.889,0:34:55.710
been sometime well sometime in the

0:34:53.639,0:34:57.869
future we’re not gonna be around to have

0:34:55.710,0:35:00.089
those happy moments Wow

0:34:57.869,0:35:02.700
so you went a really morbid on me then

0:35:00.089,0:35:05.580
so you’re you’re putting me in the

0:35:02.700,0:35:08.190
ground here well at least we’ll come

0:35:05.580,0:35:09.990
later than when youth at least will come

0:35:08.190,0:35:11.430
later than you think of the time that

0:35:09.990,0:35:12.990
we’re not going to and that I’m not

0:35:11.430,0:35:17.760
going to enjoy spending time with you

0:35:12.990,0:35:20.339
guys because it’s true yeah so this is

0:35:17.760,0:35:22.890
kind of an odd question and I can kind

0:35:20.339,0:35:28.950
of elaborate if you want but do your

0:35:22.890,0:35:33.300
parents get you well I mean you

0:35:28.950,0:35:35.010
understand my hobbies and everything and

0:35:33.300,0:35:37.260
especially when I was in sixth grade I

0:35:35.010,0:35:41.070
kind of needed you guys to get me so

0:35:37.260,0:35:43.680
that you could help me cope through my

0:35:41.070,0:35:45.900
problems at that point and you did a

0:35:43.680,0:35:49.440
very well job good job at it so I’d say

0:35:45.900,0:35:51.540
you guys kind of get me um you

0:35:49.440,0:35:56.150
understand like my hobby

0:35:51.540,0:35:59.490
my interest and also my weak points and

0:35:56.150,0:36:01.620
dislikes so I if you’re talking about

0:35:59.490,0:36:02.640
that kind of stuff I’d say you guys get

0:36:01.620,0:36:07.230
me okay

0:36:02.640,0:36:08.430
can I ask that because like I was very

0:36:07.230,0:36:10.260
close to my mom

0:36:08.430,0:36:12.300
and I don’t think she ever really got me

0:36:10.260,0:36:15.960
when I was your age but she was

0:36:12.300,0:36:17.700
incredibly tolerant and she was kind

0:36:15.960,0:36:21.810
enough to give me the freedom that I

0:36:17.700,0:36:24.450
needed to understand who I was even if

0:36:21.810,0:36:26.280
she didn’t understand who I was and it

0:36:24.450,0:36:30.560
wasn’t until later in life when my

0:36:26.280,0:36:34.440
probably my adult years that I actually

0:36:30.560,0:36:36.680
understood and appreciated the freedom

0:36:34.440,0:36:40.610
and the space that she gave me to

0:36:36.680,0:36:46.400
explore the version that I was and then

0:36:40.610,0:36:46.400
going through that with Sam I I kind of

0:36:46.700,0:36:54.660
realized that I didn’t give him that

0:36:50.610,0:36:58.730
space and I didn’t get him and that’s

0:36:54.660,0:36:58.730
sort of what led to a lot of that drama

0:36:58.790,0:37:05.430
so it’s kind of curious sort of a sanity

0:37:03.300,0:37:08.150
check on my part here as to how well

0:37:05.430,0:37:08.150
we’re getting along

0:37:08.160,0:37:15.170
speaking of parents you know my parents

0:37:11.040,0:37:18.520
argued almost on a regular basis thanks

0:37:15.170,0:37:21.550
largely to my father

0:37:18.520,0:37:24.520
the mommy and I argue a lot is that does

0:37:21.550,0:37:28.690
it cause tension and stuff like that um

0:37:24.520,0:37:31.030
not really you guys argue more than you

0:37:28.690,0:37:32.920
and I argue but you also have a lot of

0:37:31.030,0:37:36.369
play fights as well you guys don’t

0:37:32.920,0:37:37.810
normally argue on big things at least

0:37:36.369,0:37:40.089
not that I know of unless you’re hiding

0:37:37.810,0:37:43.240
something from me I think you guys just

0:37:40.089,0:37:46.599
have play fights and it’s kind of funny

0:37:43.240,0:37:47.800
to watch if I have to be honest okay do

0:37:46.599,0:37:50.920
you think mommy and daddy love each

0:37:47.800,0:37:53.200
other I mean I’m pretty sure you guys

0:37:50.920,0:37:57.220
love each other you’re still to get

0:37:53.200,0:37:59.230
there you hug and kiss each other you

0:37:57.220,0:38:02.080
have displayed the fact that it makes

0:37:59.230,0:38:04.930
you very uncomfortable yes you’re not

0:38:02.080,0:38:10.960
big on public displays of affection not

0:38:04.930,0:38:12.940
really no so I assume you guys still

0:38:10.960,0:38:14.890
love each other and out the completed

0:38:12.940,0:38:16.510
judge of it but I think you guys love

0:38:14.890,0:38:17.830
each other unless once again you’re

0:38:16.510,0:38:20.230
hiding something from me

0:38:17.830,0:38:23.350
I’m pretty sure you got that one right

0:38:20.230,0:38:27.500
on the nose too awesome

0:38:23.350,0:38:33.980
have you ever gotten angry at your

0:38:27.500,0:38:36.020
parents um not intentionally I’ve never

0:38:33.980,0:38:36.830
wanted to get intentionally angry with

0:38:36.020,0:38:40.490
you guys

0:38:36.830,0:38:43.940
it’s just when I had uncontrollable mood

0:38:40.490,0:38:47.060
swings I would get angry at little

0:38:43.940,0:38:52.820
things that you guys told me to do you’d

0:38:47.060,0:38:55.840
Hulk out no I mean hmm I sort of have

0:38:52.820,0:38:58.490
Hulk out I would have hoped out for

0:38:55.840,0:39:00.020
about a minute and then I would have

0:38:58.490,0:39:03.230
immediately got and then I would

0:39:00.020,0:39:06.230
immediately regretted it and just turned

0:39:03.230,0:39:09.290
into a ball of absolute and I would just

0:39:06.230,0:39:12.550
have solved yeah yeah I remember those

0:39:09.290,0:39:17.990
times good times yeah that was the best

0:39:12.550,0:39:20.900
that was fun so we talked about you know

0:39:17.990,0:39:24.400
you having different traits of mommy and

0:39:20.900,0:39:27.230
daddy you’ve got mommy’s nose you’ve got

0:39:24.400,0:39:29.420
I’d say my mouth but people will take

0:39:27.230,0:39:33.050
that the wrong way no I have mommy’s

0:39:29.420,0:39:36.230
mouth I have a small mouth

0:39:33.050,0:39:39.680
you’ve got my ears and my eyes and your

0:39:36.230,0:39:42.140
hair I don’t have hair lady but I mean

0:39:39.680,0:39:44.780
the color you use a blonde hair when you

0:39:42.140,0:39:49.370
were younger that’s true so what is the

0:39:44.780,0:39:50.870
one trait that mommy and I have not

0:39:49.370,0:39:52.640
necessarily we have the same trait but a

0:39:50.870,0:39:56.830
treat that she has in a treat that I

0:39:52.640,0:40:00.020
have that you’d like to have well I

0:39:56.830,0:40:03.470
would like to have your ability to cope

0:40:00.020,0:40:08.210
with problems I’m still kind of going

0:40:03.470,0:40:11.900
through how to work out problems you

0:40:08.210,0:40:13.610
always say to work the problem I don’t

0:40:11.900,0:40:15.770
normally do that I’m more on the

0:40:13.610,0:40:17.540
emotional side of that aspect so I’m

0:40:15.770,0:40:20.180
hoping at one point I’ll actually be

0:40:17.540,0:40:22.760
able to work out the problem and do all

0:40:20.180,0:40:26.300
the steps that you um do when you have a

0:40:22.760,0:40:30.950
problem and so yeah that’s what I would

0:40:26.300,0:40:35.060
want from you as for mommy I’d want her

0:40:30.950,0:40:36.650
ability to be organized and tolerable

0:40:35.060,0:40:39.920
because she is able to get

0:40:36.650,0:40:44.930
out the door when we need to already and

0:40:39.920,0:40:46.910
she tolerates us so that she does and

0:40:44.930,0:40:50.240
she is very organized especially when

0:40:46.910,0:40:52.700
we’re planning a Disney vacation she

0:40:50.240,0:40:55.610
plans it like a military expedition yes

0:40:52.700,0:41:00.170
the one advantages both of those traits

0:40:55.610,0:41:03.260
are acquired traits so through training

0:41:00.170,0:41:06.140
education and practice they’re

0:41:03.260,0:41:07.850
absolutely things that you can master

0:41:06.140,0:41:12.470
yourself awesome

0:41:07.850,0:41:15.050
I think we’ve asked you this in the past

0:41:12.470,0:41:17.570
but do you want to have children or be a

0:41:15.050,0:41:20.060
parent someday in the future well I

0:41:17.570,0:41:23.270
remember when we were talking about my

0:41:20.060,0:41:26.300
future plans I had said that I wanted to

0:41:23.270,0:41:31.030
adopt a child I never really thought of

0:41:26.300,0:41:35.090
having children the normal way because

0:41:31.030,0:41:39.350
learning from other learning from mommy

0:41:35.090,0:41:40.700
and how everything works I don’t

0:41:39.350,0:41:42.740
necessarily want to go through all that

0:41:40.700,0:41:47.210
pain just to have a child

0:41:42.740,0:41:49.280
with the fact that I can adopt one plus

0:41:47.210,0:41:52.240
I’m not necessarily thinking of getting

0:41:49.280,0:41:55.640
married at any time in the future so

0:41:52.240,0:41:57.200
adoption would have I I mean I’ve always

0:41:55.640,0:41:59.000
I want to be a parent

0:41:57.200,0:42:02.930
I just want to take care of someone who

0:41:59.000,0:42:07.130
would need it and I and I think adoption

0:42:02.930,0:42:12.070
would have worked out so well and you

0:42:07.130,0:42:14.350
know the one thing about childbirth and

0:42:12.070,0:42:18.950
obviously I can’t speak from experience

0:42:14.350,0:42:20.600
thankfully but the one thing that has

0:42:18.950,0:42:23.570
been scientifically proven about

0:42:20.600,0:42:28.760
childbirth is that women who go through

0:42:23.570,0:42:32.090
childbirth their brains actually block

0:42:28.760,0:42:34.310
out the memory of the worst of the pain

0:42:32.090,0:42:37.280
so your body actually has its own

0:42:34.310,0:42:39.350
defensive mechanisms now in saying that

0:42:37.280,0:42:42.710
that doesn’t mean that you don’t go

0:42:39.350,0:42:45.590
through the pain you do but in looking

0:42:42.710,0:42:47.620
back on it women who have gone through

0:42:45.590,0:42:49.390
childbirth have a very different

0:42:47.620,0:42:54.519
remembrance of

0:42:49.390,0:42:55.930
birth then the pain aspect of it ah but

0:42:54.519,0:42:59.440
I totally understand your not wanting to

0:42:55.930,0:43:01.779
go through that and dot adoption is a

0:42:59.440,0:43:03.039
perfectly legitimate alternative to it

0:43:01.779,0:43:06.339
there are a lot of children out there

0:43:03.039,0:43:08.529
who do not aren’t fortunate enough to

0:43:06.339,0:43:11.950
have two parents that love them who

0:43:08.529,0:43:16.059
could benefit from someone who is mature

0:43:11.950,0:43:17.049
and caring and loving and a lot of kids

0:43:16.059,0:43:19.480
need to be adopted

0:43:17.049,0:43:23.019
mm-hmm do you think you’d make a good

0:43:19.480,0:43:27.039
parent well well the qualities I have

0:43:23.019,0:43:29.529
now I’d be able to cook for them um as

0:43:27.039,0:43:31.599
long as any one spaghetti I can also

0:43:29.529,0:43:33.489
make sandwiches thank you very much that

0:43:31.599,0:43:36.609
it can also make microwaved food so I

0:43:33.489,0:43:40.180
can waffles and waffles and pancakes and

0:43:36.609,0:43:42.940
eggs now so breakfast your goober

0:43:40.180,0:43:48.700
breakfast yes pretty much

0:43:42.940,0:43:51.190
so I’d cook for them I try to make sure

0:43:48.700,0:43:54.430
that they are happy and that they have

0:43:51.190,0:43:58.509
fun I’d like to think of myself as fun

0:43:54.430,0:44:00.759
and entertaining I’d be understanding if

0:43:58.509,0:44:03.369
they had any problems like bullies or

0:44:00.759,0:44:08.819
any mental issues I’d be accepting if

0:44:03.369,0:44:08.819
they decided that they were part of like

0:44:09.210,0:44:15.160
you know the LGBTQ community I’d be

0:44:12.430,0:44:18.009
totally accepting for them I’d always

0:44:15.160,0:44:20.769
accept them I’d accept anyone actually I

0:44:18.009,0:44:22.359
just really and I’d also be accepting

0:44:20.769,0:44:23.769
any of their ideas as long as they’re

0:44:22.359,0:44:26.170
not hurting themselves anyone or

0:44:23.769,0:44:28.779
anything okay what do you think that’s I

0:44:26.170,0:44:31.720
also don’t have a lot of things planned

0:44:28.779,0:44:37.839
out like I don’t have a house I don’t

0:44:31.720,0:44:39.609
have a steady income and some skills I

0:44:37.839,0:44:42.640
have an intention and we learned about

0:44:39.609,0:44:46.239
parenting yet well you got some time yes

0:44:42.640,0:44:51.460
no need to rush yeah so the last

0:44:46.239,0:44:53.920
question that I have is if there was one

0:44:51.460,0:44:59.289
thing you could change about each of

0:44:53.920,0:45:00.940
your parents what would it be well some

0:44:59.289,0:45:02.410
people would think I would change any of

0:45:00.940,0:45:04.630
the mistakes and

0:45:02.410,0:45:06.400
you like snakes I’ll make mistakes what

0:45:04.630,0:45:08.890
are you talking about like the fact that

0:45:06.400,0:45:10.750
you scream at technology I don’t think

0:45:08.890,0:45:15.250
that plastic I just think that’s where

0:45:10.750,0:45:17.410
coping yeah well and today I’d say no I

0:45:15.250,0:45:20.020
won’t change the mistakes because like

0:45:17.410,0:45:22.510
you say you accept mistakes as long as

0:45:20.020,0:45:24.700
you learn from them and not by screaming

0:45:22.510,0:45:28.329
at technology and calming yourself down

0:45:24.700,0:45:30.400
you realize that oh wait I needed to do

0:45:28.329,0:45:32.500
this thing to get the technology working

0:45:30.400,0:45:34.990
so sometimes you need to blow off that

0:45:32.500,0:45:38.260
steam same goes with mommy I don’t have

0:45:34.990,0:45:39.369
exact examples because she’s more

0:45:38.260,0:45:42.430
perfect guy

0:45:39.369,0:45:48.130
I mean purpose takes aren’t quite as

0:45:42.430,0:45:49.660
glaring as her mistakes okay fair enough

0:45:48.130,0:45:50.799
all right well that was all the

0:45:49.660,0:45:52.420
questions that we have we’re gonna take

0:45:50.799,0:45:54.880
a quick break we’re gonna come back and

0:45:52.420,0:45:58.130
we will get your closing remarks and

0:45:54.880,0:46:05.369
your shout outs all righty

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0:47:15.380,0:47:19.790
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0:47:19.790,0:47:26.120
remarks off of that so keep your friends

0:47:23.390,0:47:30.460
and family close oh your enemies even

0:47:26.120,0:47:34.250
closer daddy yeah I know that saying

0:47:30.460,0:47:35.810
even if you aren’t close with some of

0:47:34.250,0:47:37.700
your friends or some of your family

0:47:35.810,0:47:40.880
there will be some people out there that

0:47:37.700,0:47:45.890
will accept you for who you are and that

0:47:40.880,0:47:47.660
will always stand by you that’s it

0:47:45.890,0:47:53.450
yeah I’m just wondering if you’re gonna

0:47:47.660,0:47:57.620
sing that one song like stand by me look

0:47:53.450,0:48:00.530
at that talent you got there not many

0:47:57.620,0:48:04.190
people know about nice well you do like

0:48:00.530,0:48:06.290
to sing occasionally old rock band so so

0:48:04.190,0:48:08.810
that was it for today right you know

0:48:06.290,0:48:10.280
anything else um I’ll just shout out to

0:48:08.810,0:48:12.980
all my friends and family right now

0:48:10.280,0:48:16.370
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0:48:12.980,0:48:20.120
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