Insights Into Teens: Episode 121 “Feeling like a burden”

Situations, emotions and hormones often combine in our teens to make them feel like a burden on those around them. We’ll explore why this happens, some of the things that can cause this and finally we’ll look at ways to help our teens combat this.

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Insights Into Teens: Episode 121 “Feeling like a burden”
My compassionate and caring co-host Madison Whalen

Summary
Situations, emotions and hormones often combine in our teens to make them feel like a burden on those around them. We’ll explore why this happens, some of the things that can cause this and finally we’ll look at ways to help our teens combat this.

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Why do people feel like a burden
https://www.bellfoundation.org.au/why-do-people-with-depression-feel-like-a-burden/
https://bit.ly/3B9OBDZ

More often than not feeling like a burden is tied to other issues such as low self esteem, depression, guilt and other feelings that are overwhelming for us to handle
We in turn believe that if those feelings are an overwhelming burden on us, then it makes us an overwhelming burden on others.
Feeling like a burden is usually a symptom of a larger problem, not the root cause of the problem itself.
Determining the reason for feeling like a burden is the key to addressing the root cause of the issues we face.

Many people that go through an episode of depression feel like a burden to others.
Often individuals who live with depression struggle with feelings of guilt.
It seems to be linked intrinsically with depression and how someone with this illness perceives themselves.
They may express how they feel worthless and a burden to the people that are caring for them.

Often as carers, we find ourselves saying,
“There is nothing to feel guilty for.”
“You can’t help feeling ill.”
The individual may be aware of this, but they are unable to move past the negative thoughts they are experiencing.
Being ‘stuck’ in negative thinking is a major part of depression.

Guilt is synonymous with mental ill health.
People that are depressed may often feel they are undeserving of love and happiness.
They may feel that they are taking away people’s time and energy needlessly.

It’s important to understand that someone with depression doesn’t want to feel guilty or a burden.
They don’t enjoy it or encourage it.
There is tremendous pressure put on all of us in society to appear well and to not talk about negative feelings.
When someone is depressed, this feeling is exacerbated and they will often hide how they truly feel from people that care about them.
There is a real fear that they are burdening people around them with too great a responsibility.
Depression causes people to self destruct and to not seek help or support.
They may push others away from them and damage relationships; sometimes irreparably.

People with depression may also have had difficult experiences when they have shared how they’ve felt in the past.
They may have opened up to someone they’ve trusted and that person hasn’t been able to deal with it.
They may have been met with silence or ignored.
This can damage future relationships and how much they trust other people to help them when they’re ill.
Someone with depression may be surrounded by genuine, caring individuals, but still struggle with trusting them.
They might convince themselves that they will be left alone, or what happened in the past may happen all over again.

Feeling like a burden makes many people with depression stay silent.
They may feel they’re not worthy of help.
They may feel they will just drag people down with them.
It’s important we make people feel that they no longer have to be silent.
That it’s ok to tell people that they’re unwell and struggling.
They need to feel that when they do open up, they will be met with support.

It’s also ok for the people around them to say it is a struggle sometimes to support someone with depression.
It’s important for them to acknowledge that it’s not easy, but that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world.
Seeing someone unwell is very difficult, especially when they are dealing with very negative thoughts.
We want to help someone who is unwell and make them feel better.
It isn’t because we see someone as a burden.
It’s because as compassionate human beings we want to help those who may be suffering.
It may also be because we went through something similar and are grateful for those who helped us through it and want to continue that positive movement by helping others.

What we can do to help someone is to be there for them.
We can listen and offer practical support.

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Reasons behind the feeling:
https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/rejection/feeling-like-a-burden-what-it-means-and-how-to-overcome-it/
https://bit.ly/3D2iJ5B
Our feelings contribute to our reality.
If you feel like a burden, you will have to work through your feelings to see your true worth.
However, working through those feelings may not always seem easy, as it requires challenging your thoughts and facing your emotions.
Here are a few reasons you may be feeling like a burden:

Low Self-Esteem and Confidence:
People who suffer from low self-esteem may believe that they aren’t worth anything or are burdensome, especially if this is a belief that has been solidified overtime.
If you suffer from low self-esteem, it helps to remember that you can overcome that belief and work toward being more confident.
For some, low self-esteem is something that is experienced on its own.
For others, however, low self-esteem and self-confidence may be a symptom of a mental illness.

Anxiety Disorders:
If you struggle with anxiety, you may be worried that your symptoms are troublesome to those around you or that people may leave you because of them.
While these beliefs are not rooted in reality, they are very real to the person experiencing them, and such beliefs may worsen existing anxiety.
However, worrying about what others think of you does not always signify an anxiety disorder.
To help you better understand if you’re dealing with anxiety, here is a list of symptoms associated with this category of mental illness:
Feeling as though you are constantly on edge
Feeling fatigued and having difficulty concentrating or following through with tasks
Being irritable and angry
Experiencing muscle tension and random pain
Worrying frequently
Having issues sleeping
Some anxiety disorders also include panic attacks, which can include symptoms such as heart palpitations, sweating, intense feelings of dread and fear, and shaking or trembling.
If you believe that you have an anxiety disorder, you will want to seek help from a licensed therapist.
Therapy can help alleviate the symptoms of an anxiety disorder.
It can also help you process the emotions associated with feeling like a burden.

Depressive Disorders:
Individuals suffering with depression may also feel like a burden.
Depression is a mental disorder that affects mood and self-perception, which can lead you to believe negative things about yourself.
Symptoms of depression include:
Feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, and sadness/numbness
Sleeping too little or too much
Having little appetite or eating more than usual(which can be accompanied by weight loss or gain)
Feeling fatigued and lethargic, which can cause you to speak and move more slowly than usual
Difficulty concentrating and maintaining focus
No desire or motivation to do daily tasks or engage in previously enjoyed activities
Agitation, anger, or irritation
Frequent thoughts of death or dying
If you are experiencing symptoms of depression, please seek help immediately, especially if you’re thinking about suicide or believe that you are at risk of harming yourself.
Here is the National Suicide Prevention line: 1-800-273-8255

Just as anxiety or depression may contribute to feeling like a burden, so may other mental disorders – for example, bipolar disorder or an eating disorder.
And you do not have to have a mental disorder to feel like a burden.
Dealing with a health issue that makes you rely on others can lead to the same thing.
Whatever is causing you to feel this way, support is available.

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How to Stop Feeling like a Burden:

Now that we’ve reviewed some of the issues that may be causing your current state of mind, let’s take a look at some ways to overcome feeling like a burden to friends and family members.

Building up your Self-Esteem:
One great way to start working toward a life in which you do not feel like you’re burdening others is to build your self-esteem so you can recognize your value as a person.
When we feel as though we have no value, it’s hard to live our best lives.
Fortunately, you can build your self-esteem up and become more confident about who you are.

Here are a few ways to get started:
Repeat positive affirmations and point out things you love about yourself
Create words of encouragement and kind reminders for yourself
Spend more time with people who make you feel loved and appreciated.
Do things you excel at
Set achievable goals and tasks, and complete them.
Challenge negative thoughts when they appear, and replace them with positive ones
Improve your current lifestyle by cultivating healthier habits
Refuse to compare yourself to others, and focus only on your personal journey
Be kind to yourself, and remember that no one is perfect
Focus on your mental health and wellness

Improving your Relationships:
Sometimes, all we need is one person’s reassurance that we are not a burden.
However, fear or uncertainty can prevent us from reaching out.
To combat feelings of low self-esteem, try expressing how you’re feeling to those closest to you.
Speak openly to those you trust, and let them reassure you.
Focus, too, on improving those relationships so that there is greater trust and better communication.
When you feel actively loved and appreciated by another person, you are less likely to feel like a burden.
If you don’t have someone you can trust to be open with, consider speaking with a licensed counselor.

Getting help for Mental illness:
As we mentioned before, low self-esteem is a symptom of a number of mental disorders.
If you are struggling with anxiety, depression, or another mental health disorder, reaching out to a licensed therapist is an important first step.
Therapy can help you cope with low self-esteem and other symptoms as well, so you can live the best life possible.
When we think of therapy, we usually think of in-person sessions in an office at a nearby location.
However, especially when you aren’t feeling great, there are times when it’s difficult to attend in-person therapy.
This is where online counseling comes in.

Feeling like a burden can greatly impact your self-perception and mental health.
However, these feelings are rarely justified or true.
If you are feeling like a burden to those around you, therapy can help you understand just how worthy and loved you truly are.

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welcome to insights in the teens this is

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episode 121

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feeling like a burden i’m your host

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joseph whalen and my compassionate and

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caring co-host madison whalen hi

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everyone how are you doing today maddie

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i’m all right how about you i’m doing

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okay how was your uh week so far this

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week not too bad um

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i’m finally out of band camp which is

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nice

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you know not too bad is pretty good

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considering you had a dentist

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appointment and an orthodontist

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appointment this week well at least they

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weren’t on the same day like the last

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time that’s true but that you know

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having a a week it’s not so bad just

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goes to show you how tough band camp was

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last week

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yeah

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compared to last week i kind of prefer

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this week even having to go to the

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orthodontist in dentist wasn’t as bad

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hey but you know what you survived it

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you came out stronger you said your the

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conditioning worked you’re able to do

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some of the routines now a little bit

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easier so i think mission accomplished

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right yeah

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so this week we are talking about being

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a burden this was another topic that you

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had uh come up with and did the research

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for

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so situations emotions and hormones

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often combine in our teens to make them

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feel like a burden on those around them

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or at least what that’s what they

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perceive

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we’ll exploit explore why this happens

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some of the things that can cause this

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and finally we’ll look at ways to help

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our teens combat this

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but before we do that i would invite our

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so why do people feel like a burden so

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this research came from the

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bellfoundation.org

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another one of our

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australian sources we used one of those

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last week as well

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more often than not feeling like a

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burden is tied to other issues such as

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self-esteem depression guilt or other

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feelings that are overwhelming for us to

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handle

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we in turn believe that if those

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feelings are an overwhelming burden on

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us then it makes us an overwhelming

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burden on others

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feeling like a burden is usually a

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symptom of a larger problem not the root

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cause of the problem itself

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determining the reason for feeling like

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a burden is the key to addressing the

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root cause of the issues we may face

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many people that go through an episode

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of depression feel like a burden to

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others

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often individuals who live with

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depression struggle with feelings of

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guilt

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it seems to be linked intrinsically with

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depression

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and how someone with this illness

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perceives themselves

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they may express how they feel worthless

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or a burden to the people that are

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caring for them

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often as carers we find ourselves saying

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there is nothing to feel guilty for

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you can’t help feeling ill

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the individual may be aware of this but

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they are unable to move past the

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negative thoughts they are experiencing

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being stuck in negative thinking is a

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major part of depression

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guilt is synonymous with mental ill

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health

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people that are depressed may often feel

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they are undeserving of love and

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happiness

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they may feel that they are taking away

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people’s time and energy needlessly

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it’s important to understand that

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someone with depression doesn’t want to

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feel guilty or a burden

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they don’t enjoy it or encourage it

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there’s a tremendous pressure on all of

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us in society to appear well and to not

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talk about negative feelings

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when someone is depressed this feeling

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is exacerbated and they’ll often hide

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how they truly feel from people that

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care about them

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there’s a real fear that they’re

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burdening people around them with too

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great a responsibility

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depression causes people to

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self-destruct

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and to not seek help or support

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they may push others away from them and

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damage relationships sometimes

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irreparably

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people with depression may also have had

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experiences

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when they have shared how they felt in

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the past

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they may have opened up to someone

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they’ve trusted and that person hasn’t

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been able to deal with it

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they may have been met with silence or

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just simply ignored

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this can damage future relationships and

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how much they trust other people to help

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them when they’re ill

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someone with depression may be

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surrounded by genuine caring individuals

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but still struggle with trusting them

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they might convince themselves

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that they’ll be left alone or what

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happened in the past may happen all over

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again

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feeling like a burden makes many people

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with depression stay silent they may

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feel they’re not worthy of help they may

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feel they will just drag people down

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with them

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it’s important we make people feel that

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they are no

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that they no longer have to be silent

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that’s so

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that it’s okay to tell people that

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they’re unwell and struggling

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they need to feel

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that when they do open up they will be

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met with support

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it’s so it’s also okay for people around

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them to say it is a struggle sometimes

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to support someone with depression

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it’s important for them to acknowledge

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that it’s not easy but that doesn’t mean

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it’s the end of the world

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seeing someone unwell is very difficult

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especially when they are dealing with

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very negative thoughts

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we want to help someone who is unwell

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and make them feel better it isn’t

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because we see someone as a burden

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it’s because as compassionate human

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beings we want to help those who may be

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suffering

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it may also be because we want we went

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through something similar and are

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grateful for those who helped us through

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it and want to continue that positive

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movement movement by helping others

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what we can do to help someone is to be

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there for them we can listen and offer

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practical support

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so this is kind of a heavy topic for

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today wouldn’t you say

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yeah kinda so let me ask with

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all that said and done and that was a

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very detailed definition of what feeling

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like a burden kind of is and some of the

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things

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that it might stem from

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have you had feelings of of being a

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burden on others

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i mean we’ve kind of mentioned the fact

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that i feel that i’m your little burden

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basically so

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yeah i’d say i’ve kind of felt like a

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burden to others

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and what do you think that feeling stems

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from is it self-esteem issues is it

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depression is it

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just the general state of being a

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teenager dependent on other people

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i think it’s probably mostly related to

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my self-esteem

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i know i don’t really

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have depression and i don’t really have

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um

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i don’t really think it just stems from

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the fact that i’m still young and i like

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need your help because i have kind of

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been striving to be slightly more

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independent

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um so i guess it kind of all ties back

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to my own self-esteem

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um and i think a lot of it is kind of

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like when i get upset i feel like i’m

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burdening you guys with my problems

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because you have to worry about taking

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care of me while also worrying about

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everything else

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um and i’ve actually also kind of felt

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that way in marching bands sort of

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because like

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um we’ve been talking about like how

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um

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everything i do

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like i have to

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like it’s just

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me in a way i if i don’t get my steps

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right the form is not really gonna look

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right so um

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if i do mess something up or if i’m

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if i feel too

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needy

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um with you or the people at marching

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band i feel like i’m a burden i

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understand that makes sense and from the

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marching band standpoint you know any

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this is the first time you’ve really

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been involved in

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a team event a team participation

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and if you look at it objectively really

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if anybody messes up their part it has

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an effect

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so

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that doesn’t single you out as a burden

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it’s your first year

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so i could totally understand the

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overwhelming feeling of learning all

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this stuff

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that

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you’ve never been exposed to

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uh but this is why you have mini camp

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and band camp and rehearsal and

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you know the the rest of the band

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understands that they were all first

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years at some point in time themselves

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and they all went through it at the same

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time

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so i wouldn’t you know

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i understand where it comes from

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uh

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but if if that becomes an overwhelming

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feeling you probably should talk to

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the the band director and kind of

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explain your feelings and

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i’m sure they’re very well equipped to

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deal with this because he’s been doing

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it for a long time and you’re not the

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first person to walk in with a lot of

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these feelings

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um as as a individual who has

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who suffers from depression myself

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i’ve gone through the feelings you know

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those those

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deep lows

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emotionally

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where

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you know you do feel like a burden on

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the people around you you feel like

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you don’t want to bother other people

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when you know you’re like like i’m the

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type of person that when i go through

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these depressive periods

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i know that

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i i can logically acknowledge

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that my life is pretty good you know i

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have these issues that i go through that

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it’s not

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i lost my job or or

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you know a loved one passes away

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those things tend to not trigger

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depressive uh episodes for me they just

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sort of come out of the blue and you’re

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overwhelmed by these

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feelings of depression and sadness and

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questioning self-worth and

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and i don’t know where they come from so

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i don’t want to

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i’m very hesitant to talk about things

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like that with other people because

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i i don’t know how to deal with them

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myself

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and i don’t want to

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i’m overwhelmed by them and i don’t want

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to overwhelm other people

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so a lot of what they talk about here

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about keeping silent is is very true

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and the few times that i have actually

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gone out and talked to people whether

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it’s talking to

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to mommy or or when i would go through

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these periods and and my mom was around

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i would talk to her if i’ve talked to

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counselors

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that act of talking about it because

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you’re not

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looking for an answer you’re really not

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it’s not like you’re going to someone

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and

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you’ll tell them what the problem is and

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they’ll give you an answer to it it

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doesn’t work that way yeah but what it

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really is about is

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talking

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through

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what you’re feeling and just having

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somebody to listen

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and

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when you can talk those things and

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vocalize those things to someone else

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it helps you to understand them

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a lot better even if the person on the

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other side doesn’t say a word

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like my mother

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very rarely said anything when i had

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these talks with her

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but just the fact that she was listening

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and

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having that compassionate person to talk

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to about it

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was in itself uplifting

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so

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it is important to talk about these

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things when you when you’re feeling like

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a burden and

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by talking about them with other people

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you’re not burdening them with it yeah

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um

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a lot of the problems that you’re

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running into

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as a teen

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you still have to deal with

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so

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when i think of burdening someone in the

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literal sense

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it’s like

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giving them the problems and letting

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them solve them

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but you’re really not doing that aren’t

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you

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not really no you’re you’re basically

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trying to figure out how to deal with

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them and and when you talk your way

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through it

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it’s kind of like when you talk to

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yourself you know if you’re sitting

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there putting something in together

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you’re doing a lego project or

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you’re trying to assemble furniture and

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you you’re reading the instructions and

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you start talking to yourself

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that talking to yourself helps your

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brain to work a different way you you

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look at the problem from a different

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angle

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so when you vocalize it

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you’re working different parts of your

0:14:49.680,0:14:52.560
brain

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and it helps your brain to figure things

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out

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so that’s really what you’re doing when

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you’re discussing these feelings with

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someone you’re not putting the feelings

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on someone else

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you’re using that conversation

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to kind of rewire your thinking about

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those problems and sometimes when you do

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that it helps you to figure them out

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where you otherwise wouldn’t be able to

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yeah so so don’t ever hesitate to talk

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to

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mommy or i about any of these things

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uh you know we’re here to help that is

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we joke around you’re our little burden

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but

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as parents we accept that yeah and as

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parents

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you know we are responsible for you

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we’re responsible for your

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care we’re responsible for

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clothing you and feeding you

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but we’re equally as responsible for

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your

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your

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mental well-being as well

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so and mommy and daddy have both fully

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accepted that responsibility so

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don’t ever think that you are burdening

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us when you want to talk about things

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like this we’re always here to listen

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so we’re going to take a quick break and

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we’re going to come back and talk about

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some of the reasons that people wind up

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welcome back everyone today we’re

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talking about feeling like a burden

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and now we’re going to be talking about

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the reasons behind people feeling like a

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burden

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and this research comes from a website

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called betterhelp.com

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so our feelings contribute to our

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reality if you feel like a burden you

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will have to work through your feelings

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to see your true worth

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however working through those feelings

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may not always seem easy as it requires

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challenging your thoughts and facing

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your emotions

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here are a few reasons you may be

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feeling like a burden

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and one of the main ones

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the first one we have here is low

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self-esteem and confidence

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people who suffer from low self-esteem

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may believe that they aren’t worth

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anything or a burdensome especially if

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this is a belief that has been

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solidified over time

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if you suffer from low self-esteem it

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helps to remember that you can overcome

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that belief and work toward being more

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confident

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for some low self-esteem is something

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that is experienced on its own for

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others however low self-esteem and

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self-confidence may be a symptom of a

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mental illness

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anxiety disorders are another reason you

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may feel like a burden

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if you struggle with anxiety you may be

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worried that your symptoms are

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troublesome to those around you

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or that people may leave you because of

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them

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while these beliefs are not rooted in

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reality they are very real to the person

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experiencing them

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and such beliefs may worsen anxiety

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however

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worrying about what others think of you

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does not always signify an anxiety

0:19:04.400,0:19:07.679
disorder

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to help you better understand if you’re

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dealing with anxiety here’s a list of

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symptoms associated with this category

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of mental illness

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feeling as though you’re constantly on

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edge

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feeling fatigued and having difficulty

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concentrating or following through with

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tasks

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being irritable and angry

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experiencing muscle tension and random

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pain

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worrying frequently or having issues

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sleeping

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some anxiety disorders

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also include panic attacks

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which can include symptoms such as heart

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palpitations sweating intense feelings

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of dread and fear

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and shaking or trembling

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if you believe that you have an anxiety

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disorder you’ll want to seek help from a

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licensed therapist

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therapy can help alleviate the symptoms

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of an anxiety disorder

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it can also help you process the

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emotions associated with feeling like a

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burden

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there’s also depressive order disorders

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to worry about

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individuals suffering from depress with

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depression

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may also feel like a burden

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depression is a mental disorder that

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affects mood and self-perception which

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can lead you to believe negative things

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about yourself

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symptoms of depression include feelings

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of hopelessness helplessness and sadness

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or numbness

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sleeping too little or too much

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having little appetite or eating more

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than usual which can be accompanied by

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weight loss or gain

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feeling fatigued and

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lethargic

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which can cause you to speak and move

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more slowly than usual

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difficulty concentrating and maintaining

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focus

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no desire for motivation

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no desire or motivation to do daily

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tasks or engage in previously endured

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activities

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agitation anger or irritation

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and frequent thoughts of death or dying

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if you are experiencing symptoms of

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depression please seek help immediately

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especially if you’re thinking about

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suicide or believe that that you are at

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risk of harming yourself

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and we we’re also going to be providing

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the national suicide prevention line

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which is

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1 800

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to

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just as anxiety or depression may

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contribute to feeling like a burden

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so many other mental disorders

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such as bipolar disorder or an eating

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disorder

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and you do not have to have a mental

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disorder feel like a burden

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dealing with a health issue that makes

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you rely on others can lead to the same

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thing

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whatever’s causing you to feel this way

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support is available

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so

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of those symptoms and of those

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contributing factors that we talked

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about

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have you experienced

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any of these and we can go down that

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list again so

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low self-esteem or confidence is that

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something that’s that’s ever been an

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issue for you

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kind of yeah okay um

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i’ve had issues recently with my

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self-esteem

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for the most part

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in some cases it’s pretty good but

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in other cases it’s

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not so good okay uh

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my inner critic is very

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let’s say it gives

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the worst side of criticism you are very

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harsh on yourself you’re probably your

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harshest critic and i think we’ve

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established that over time

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yeah so

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low self-esteem and confidence has

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probably been

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one of the biggest factors in me kind of

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believing that i’m somewhat of a burden

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to people

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mainly because

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i don’t really believe in myself so what

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about anxiety disorder so they you’ve

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you know

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when we started this podcast one of the

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very early episodes we talked about was

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anxiety

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and it was something that you seem to

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show symptoms of

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and but once we got kind of down

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deep into the weeds on it um

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i don’t think

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we thought that you were

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what do you think i mean do you suffer

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from anxiety do you suffer from panic

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attacks or anything like that

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um are you placed in situations where

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you feel a great deal of anxiety

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i mean i definitely don’t feel any of

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the extreme side effects that come with

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it especially the physical ones

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um

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it’s just

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on occasions

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there are some times where i feel

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intense amounts of anxiety and

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at points i don’t really know how to

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deal with them okay now do you feel

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overwhelmed under those situations

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most of the time yeah i definitely don’t

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want to say that i like like it would be

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like panic attacks but i would kind of

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be overcome from the anxiety and really

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wouldn’t know how to deal with it and

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what do you usually do in those

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situations

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uh

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try distracting myself for the most part

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i try okay that’s a valid technique

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yeah

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uh

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i try

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think i try thinking of something

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different i try doing something

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different to get my mind off of it

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hopefully you know to kind of forget

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about it for a moment and that kind of

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goes back to the mindful meditation we

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talked about a few podcasts back where

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when you have those feelings those

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thoughts that are overwhelming you fill

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your brain with something else distract

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yourself away from it

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you sometimes when you come back to look

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at what’s causing that anxiety later

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after you’ve taken a break

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sometimes it’s not nearly as

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overwhelming as you originally thought

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it was yeah

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how about the oppressive disorders i

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know we did a podcast on depression as

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well

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and we thought you were suffering from

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some of those symptoms do you get

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depressed

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uh

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sometimes

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um do you get depressed or do you get

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sad there’s a difference probably sad

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and i think we all get sad at i mean

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considering the world today it’s kind of

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hard not to get sad at times yeah

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so so you do experience some of these um

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how do you think you handle these things

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overall do you feel you’re more like a

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burden these days do you feel less like

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a burden these days do you feel like

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you’re making progress

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i’ve been trying to make progress um

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i’ve started feeling a little less like

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a burden on you guys probably because

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i’ve started becoming slightly more

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independent

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um

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and

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i’ve been somewhat able to deal with

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some of my emotions but even at points i

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do have to come to you and at those

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points i do sometimes feel like a burden

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um

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but

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as for certain things like sleep i’ve

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started getting a lot better

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i haven’t really had too many issues

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sleeping recently and

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when i do i try not to bother you guys

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about it and if it gets to a point where

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it is going to be a bit bad then i do

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then i will come to you right just in

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case

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so when you come you say

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sometimes when you feel it gets to the

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point where you have to come to us you

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feel like a burden

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is that because

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it’s gotten to the point that you can’t

0:26:51.679,0:26:54.720
deal with it and you need help or is

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that because mommy or daddy make you

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feel like a burden

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um

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to deal with it so i don’t really know

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if i haven’t any other choice other than

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just you know suffering through it and i

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don’t really want to have to deal with

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that sure yeah

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welcome back today we’re talking about

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teens and how people and teens feel like

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a burden

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0:28:49.440,0:28:56.080
stop feeling like a burden you know so

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things are good again yay

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we always try to end the show on a high

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note yeah

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now that we’ve reviewed some of the

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issues that may be causing your current

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state of mind

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let’s take a look at some ways to

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overcome feeling like a burden to

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friends and family members

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so first up we have building up your

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self-esteem

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one great way to start working toward a

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life

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in which you do not feel like you’re

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burdening others is to build your

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self-esteem so you can recognize your

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value as a person

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when we feel as though we have no value

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it’s hard to live our best lives

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fortunately you can build your

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self-esteem up and become more confident

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about who you are and here are a few

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ways to get started

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repeat positive affirmations and point

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out things you love about yourself

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create words of encouragement and kind

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reminders for yourself

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spend more time with the people who make

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you feel loved and appreciated

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do things you excel at

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set achievable goals and tasks and

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complete them

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challenge negative thoughts when they

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appear and replace them with positive

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ones

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improve your current lifestyle by

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cultivating healthier habits

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refuse to compare yourself to others and

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focus only on your personal journey

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be kind to yourself and remember that no

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one is perfect

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and finally focus on your mental health

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and wellness

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improving your relationships is another

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technique to help deal with feeling like

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a burden sometimes we all we need is one

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person’s reassurance that we’re not a

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burden

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however fear or uncertainty can prevent

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us from reaching out

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to combat these feelings of low

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self-esteem try expressing how you’re

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feeling to those closest to you

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speak openly to those you trust and let

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them reassure you

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focus too on improving those

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relationships so that there’s a greater

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trust and better communication

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when you feel actively loved and

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appreciated by another person you’re

0:31:08.480,0:31:12.799
less likely to feel like a burden

0:31:11.120,0:31:14.080
if you don’t have someone you can trust

0:31:12.799,0:31:15.840
to be open with

0:31:14.080,0:31:18.000
consider speaking with a licensed

0:31:15.840,0:31:19.200
counselor

0:31:18.000,0:31:20.000
um

0:31:19.200,0:31:22.960
and

0:31:20.000,0:31:25.440
and right now the final one we have is

0:31:22.960,0:31:27.840
getting help with mental illness

0:31:25.440,0:31:29.919
as we mentioned before low self-esteem

0:31:27.840,0:31:31.200
is a symptom of a number of mental

0:31:29.919,0:31:32.799
disorders

0:31:31.200,0:31:34.960
if you are struggling with anxiety

0:31:32.799,0:31:37.279
depression or other men

0:31:34.960,0:31:39.440
or another mental disorder

0:31:37.279,0:31:41.600
reaching out to a licensed therapist is

0:31:39.440,0:31:43.519
an important first step

0:31:41.600,0:31:46.159
therapy can help you cope with low

0:31:43.519,0:31:49.600
self-esteem and other symptoms as well

0:31:46.159,0:31:51.760
so you can live the best life possible

0:31:49.600,0:31:54.559
when we think of therapy we usually

0:31:51.760,0:31:56.799
think of in-person sessions in an office

0:31:54.559,0:31:58.640
at a nearby location

0:31:56.799,0:32:00.799
however especially when you aren’t

0:31:58.640,0:32:03.519
feeling great there are times when it’s

0:32:00.799,0:32:06.799
difficult to attend in-person therapy

0:32:03.519,0:32:09.840
this is where online counseling comes in

0:32:06.799,0:32:12.640
feeling like a burden can greatly impact

0:32:09.840,0:32:14.480
your self-perception and mental health

0:32:12.640,0:32:17.200
however these feelings are rarely

0:32:14.480,0:32:19.200
justified or true if you’re feeling like

0:32:17.200,0:32:21.519
a burden to those around you

0:32:19.200,0:32:24.720
therapy can help you understand just how

0:32:21.519,0:32:26.559
worthy and loved you truly are

0:32:24.720,0:32:28.640
so with that in mind

0:32:26.559,0:32:30.480
when you have felt like a bird have you

0:32:28.640,0:32:32.240
used any of these or have you found that

0:32:30.480,0:32:34.880
any of these techniques

0:32:32.240,0:32:36.960
have been at all helpful for you well

0:32:34.880,0:32:38.880
because i do somewhat have slightly

0:32:36.960,0:32:41.039
lower self-esteem i guess i’ll kind of

0:32:38.880,0:32:44.080
talk about some of the ways they express

0:32:41.039,0:32:46.240
that and see um what ones i’ve done

0:32:44.080,0:32:49.679
repeat positive affirmations and point

0:32:46.240,0:32:49.679
out things you love about yourself

0:32:50.320,0:32:54.880
i mean

0:32:51.360,0:32:58.000
i know my strengths and weaknesses um

0:32:54.880,0:32:59.919
i have repeatedly tried telling myself

0:32:58.000,0:33:03.039
that hey i know i’m a straight a student

0:32:59.919,0:33:03.039
i know i’m good at this

0:33:03.360,0:33:07.120
i don’t know if it works

0:33:05.279,0:33:08.720
i just do it so

0:33:07.120,0:33:11.120
and this is something that that mommy

0:33:08.720,0:33:12.480
and i try to do to kind of point out to

0:33:11.120,0:33:13.919
you that

0:33:12.480,0:33:16.720
you know because a lot of times the

0:33:13.919,0:33:19.679
things that tend to break you down are

0:33:16.720,0:33:21.919
scholastic issues yeah which

0:33:19.679,0:33:24.399
you don’t have but you have this

0:33:21.919,0:33:25.360
perception that you do yeah

0:33:24.399,0:33:27.440
so

0:33:25.360,0:33:29.519
you know i think mommy and i are trying

0:33:27.440,0:33:31.279
to provide that positive reinforcement

0:33:29.519,0:33:34.880
of okay

0:33:31.279,0:33:36.240
you got a 96 you didn’t get a hundred

0:33:34.880,0:33:37.279
it’s okay

0:33:36.240,0:33:39.919
you know

0:33:37.279,0:33:41.679
um and when we’ve had these discussions

0:33:39.919,0:33:43.279
you you do seem to

0:33:41.679,0:33:45.360
calm down and relax a little bit you’re

0:33:43.279,0:33:47.840
not nearly as uptight so i do think they

0:33:45.360,0:33:49.919
do help and don’t know if you doing it

0:33:47.840,0:33:52.640
yourself is as effective

0:33:49.919,0:33:54.399
yeah um but i think with those around

0:33:52.640,0:33:56.720
you providing you support you’re big on

0:33:54.399,0:33:58.559
support and i think our family

0:33:56.720,0:34:01.360
for the most part tends to be very

0:33:58.559,0:34:03.919
supportive and that helps yeah

0:34:01.360,0:34:07.120
how about you know creating words of

0:34:03.919,0:34:09.119
encouragement and reminders for yourself

0:34:07.120,0:34:11.200
um

0:34:09.119,0:34:14.000
i’ve never really thought of that

0:34:11.200,0:34:15.839
and i’ve never really done it so that

0:34:14.000,0:34:18.800
might be something we have to give it a

0:34:15.839,0:34:20.320
try and see if it works yeah

0:34:18.800,0:34:22.639
spend more time with the people who make

0:34:20.320,0:34:24.000
you feel loved and appreciated i do that

0:34:22.639,0:34:26.000
well you didn’t have a choice during the

0:34:24.000,0:34:28.480
pandemic i mean mommy and daddy were

0:34:26.000,0:34:29.440
here and you couldn’t go anywhere so i

0:34:28.480,0:34:30.639
mean

0:34:29.440,0:34:32.480
yeah

0:34:30.639,0:34:34.800
do the things you excel at what do you

0:34:32.480,0:34:36.240
excel give me top three things that you

0:34:34.800,0:34:37.599
excel at

0:34:36.240,0:34:39.679
um

0:34:37.599,0:34:43.839
art

0:34:39.679,0:34:43.839
probably any form mostly sure

0:34:45.839,0:34:50.079
i would say research you do a fantastic

0:34:47.919,0:34:54.320
job researching these podcasts yeah

0:34:50.079,0:34:56.159
research uh let’s see what else

0:34:54.320,0:34:58.640
would gaming be something i’m good at

0:34:56.159,0:35:00.560
absolutely okay those are all good

0:34:58.640,0:35:02.240
things and these are the things that you

0:35:00.560,0:35:03.520
know maybe you need to do more of that

0:35:02.240,0:35:04.640
maybe you need to

0:35:03.520,0:35:06.240
you know

0:35:04.640,0:35:08.000
come up with more or less instead of

0:35:06.240,0:35:10.560
stopping at three let’s go to five next

0:35:08.000,0:35:12.240
time and then let’s go to seven and

0:35:10.560,0:35:14.880
you know you keep hammering those home

0:35:12.240,0:35:17.359
and you realize you know you’re a pretty

0:35:14.880,0:35:19.520
you know wonderful individual yeah and

0:35:17.359,0:35:21.280
like art’s probably the biggest thing

0:35:19.520,0:35:22.240
that i’ve done that i can relate to

0:35:21.280,0:35:25.440
because

0:35:22.240,0:35:28.960
whenever i draw or come up with a story

0:35:25.440,0:35:31.680
or play some type of music i always seem

0:35:28.960,0:35:33.839
it’s always like a way i’m like oh wow i

0:35:31.680,0:35:36.720
actually really like this like

0:35:33.839,0:35:38.720
i make an art piece i really like i come

0:35:36.720,0:35:41.119
up with a really cool idea for a story

0:35:38.720,0:35:43.200
that i really like i play

0:35:41.119,0:35:45.440
a song really well yeah

0:35:43.200,0:35:47.599
um how about relationships what do you

0:35:45.440,0:35:50.320
do to improve or do you do anything to

0:35:47.599,0:35:51.520
improve relationships um i’ve been

0:35:50.320,0:35:53.839
trying to

0:35:51.520,0:35:55.280
talk with all my friends and you know

0:35:53.839,0:35:57.520
trying to know

0:35:55.280,0:35:58.400
keep up with them um

0:35:57.520,0:35:59.200
and

0:35:58.400,0:36:00.800
um

0:35:59.200,0:36:02.640
that’s one that’s probably just the

0:36:00.800,0:36:03.599
situational struggle at this point in

0:36:02.640,0:36:05.599
time but

0:36:03.599,0:36:08.720
i think you’re involved in a marching

0:36:05.599,0:36:10.160
band is significantly improving that and

0:36:08.720,0:36:12.960
expanding

0:36:10.160,0:36:14.720
that relationship pool by exposing you

0:36:12.960,0:36:16.400
to to more people that you can hang

0:36:14.720,0:36:18.160
around with that have common interests

0:36:16.400,0:36:20.640
yeah uh the thing is i’ve actually

0:36:18.160,0:36:23.520
started uh really connecting with one of

0:36:20.640,0:36:25.760
the uh veterans um gabe

0:36:23.520,0:36:27.920
uh we’ve actually started

0:36:25.760,0:36:30.079
talking a bit more and by the end of

0:36:27.920,0:36:31.359
yesterday’s practice he actually said

0:36:30.079,0:36:35.280
that i was doing

0:36:31.359,0:36:36.160
really well for um a rookie that’s good

0:36:35.280,0:36:37.920
so

0:36:36.160,0:36:38.960
see and getting praise from someone

0:36:37.920,0:36:41.280
who’s been

0:36:38.960,0:36:44.160
you know with the program for a while

0:36:41.280,0:36:45.920
now it’s got to be uplifting yeah so

0:36:44.160,0:36:48.320
there are things that you can do you

0:36:45.920,0:36:50.240
know and and again for the the listening

0:36:48.320,0:36:52.560
audience out there

0:36:50.240,0:36:54.320
if these techniques don’t work and if

0:36:52.560,0:36:58.000
you find that you’re running into issues

0:36:54.320,0:36:59.680
there’s there’s help out there there are

0:36:58.000,0:37:02.640
you know we already gave the number for

0:36:59.680,0:37:04.880
the uh suicide prevention hotline you

0:37:02.640,0:37:06.240
can you can definitely call there even

0:37:04.880,0:37:08.560
if it’s

0:37:06.240,0:37:10.640
you know

0:37:08.560,0:37:12.400
if you need help call

0:37:10.640,0:37:14.640
they if they can’t help you they can

0:37:12.400,0:37:15.920
direct you to some place that can

0:37:14.640,0:37:18.000
you have

0:37:15.920,0:37:19.359
counselors at school that are qualified

0:37:18.000,0:37:21.840
to help you

0:37:19.359,0:37:23.920
you have a family

0:37:21.840,0:37:25.920
[Music]

0:37:23.920,0:37:27.040
doctors that can put you in touch with

0:37:25.920,0:37:29.760
people

0:37:27.040,0:37:32.240
that can provide the help that you need

0:37:29.760,0:37:34.480
there are free services out there that

0:37:32.240,0:37:35.520
you can call that are helplines that can

0:37:34.480,0:37:37.760
help you

0:37:35.520,0:37:39.520
it’s not difficult to find the help that

0:37:37.760,0:37:41.599
you need these days

0:37:39.520,0:37:43.359
we’re very fortunate

0:37:41.599,0:37:45.680
in the time that we live in now where

0:37:43.359,0:37:47.359
there is so much help that’s out there

0:37:45.680,0:37:49.520
just a few years ago

0:37:47.359,0:37:51.119
you might not have found nearly the kind

0:37:49.520,0:37:53.359
of help that you have now and it may

0:37:51.119,0:37:55.760
have been a struggle to get it

0:37:53.359,0:37:57.520
but you have to have

0:37:55.760,0:37:59.200
the motivation

0:37:57.520,0:38:00.560
to go out there you know you have to

0:37:59.200,0:38:01.920
have the motivation to want to talk

0:38:00.560,0:38:04.640
about it and maybe you’re not

0:38:01.920,0:38:06.800
comfortable going to a professional

0:38:04.640,0:38:09.520
you have to find somebody that you trust

0:38:06.800,0:38:11.839
is it a friend is it a loved one

0:38:09.520,0:38:15.440
besides mom and daddy who else

0:38:11.839,0:38:17.680
would you talk to about issues

0:38:15.440,0:38:19.440
probably some of my friends mariah

0:38:17.680,0:38:22.160
probably being the main one since i’ve

0:38:19.440,0:38:24.640
known her for the longest right um and

0:38:22.160,0:38:27.200
since she is around my age i’d probably

0:38:24.640,0:38:29.359
be the most comfortable talking to her

0:38:27.200,0:38:30.720
about issues because maybe she’s faced

0:38:29.359,0:38:32.400
something similar

0:38:30.720,0:38:35.359
and a lot of times the way that you

0:38:32.400,0:38:37.040
start a conversation like this

0:38:35.359,0:38:38.240
because a lot of people don’t know how

0:38:37.040,0:38:40.560
to how to

0:38:38.240,0:38:42.480
approach the conversation sometimes it

0:38:40.560,0:38:45.119
might just be questions you know if

0:38:42.480,0:38:47.200
you’re feeling depressed it might be

0:38:45.119,0:38:49.119
have you ever had had a feeling where

0:38:47.200,0:38:51.119
you’re just overwhelmed with sadness for

0:38:49.119,0:38:52.800
reasons that you don’t understand

0:38:51.119,0:38:53.839
and that alone could be the icebreaker

0:38:52.800,0:38:56.720
for you you don’t want to come out and

0:38:53.839,0:38:58.160
say hey i’m i’m depressed uh

0:38:56.720,0:39:01.200
what can i do it doesn’t have to be

0:38:58.160,0:39:03.200
something that direct yeah but trying to

0:39:01.200,0:39:04.880
understand how you feel

0:39:03.200,0:39:07.200
people

0:39:04.880,0:39:08.400
do that accomplish that best by asking

0:39:07.200,0:39:10.000
questions

0:39:08.400,0:39:11.599
and bouncing those questions off of

0:39:10.000,0:39:12.960
someone else that’s that’s kind of how

0:39:11.599,0:39:15.520
you start a

0:39:12.960,0:39:17.599
a conversation you go back and forth

0:39:15.520,0:39:19.040
because you never know the interesting

0:39:17.599,0:39:21.599
thing about that is

0:39:19.040,0:39:22.960
the person that you’re confiding in

0:39:21.599,0:39:24.640
may have the same problems that you’re

0:39:22.960,0:39:27.119
running into too

0:39:24.640,0:39:29.040
they might be afraid to talk about it

0:39:27.119,0:39:31.520
and you starting that conversation with

0:39:29.040,0:39:32.640
them they inadvertently be helping them

0:39:31.520,0:39:34.160
deal with the problems that they’re

0:39:32.640,0:39:35.760
running into

0:39:34.160,0:39:37.839
because everyone deals with these things

0:39:35.760,0:39:39.520
and that’s that’s the one thing

0:39:37.839,0:39:40.400
i think we kind of need to emphasize

0:39:39.520,0:39:42.480
here

0:39:40.400,0:39:45.040
you’ve dealt with feeling like a burden

0:39:42.480,0:39:46.880
i’ve dealt with feeling like a burden

0:39:45.040,0:39:49.200
different age groups

0:39:46.880,0:39:51.760
different genders different

0:39:49.200,0:39:53.359
generations different circumstances

0:39:51.760,0:39:55.839
entirely

0:39:53.359,0:39:57.839
so everybody goes through these things

0:39:55.839,0:40:00.480
everyone has self-esteem issues at some

0:39:57.839,0:40:02.320
point everyone feels depression

0:40:00.480,0:40:05.200
don’t think that you’re the only person

0:40:02.320,0:40:07.200
that goes through this everybody does at

0:40:05.200,0:40:08.480
some point in time

0:40:07.200,0:40:09.839
they may have the people person you’re

0:40:08.480,0:40:11.280
talking to may have gone through it

0:40:09.839,0:40:14.000
already

0:40:11.280,0:40:16.000
and may be a good shoulder to lean on

0:40:14.000,0:40:17.920
may have some advice for you maybe going

0:40:16.000,0:40:19.760
through it now and you may be mutually

0:40:17.920,0:40:21.119
benefiting each other by trying to talk

0:40:19.760,0:40:23.760
about it

0:40:21.119,0:40:25.119
um don’t ever feel isolated

0:40:23.760,0:40:26.640
that this is the only thing you’re the

0:40:25.119,0:40:29.359
only person that this is happening to

0:40:26.640,0:40:30.960
because it happens to everybody and

0:40:29.359,0:40:33.200
you know most people don’t want to deal

0:40:30.960,0:40:35.520
with it because society kind of

0:40:33.200,0:40:37.520
you know stigmatizes people

0:40:35.520,0:40:40.000
and it’s less so these days than it has

0:40:37.520,0:40:42.480
been in the past fortunately

0:40:40.000,0:40:44.640
you know people have acknowledged

0:40:42.480,0:40:46.720
the significance of mental health and

0:40:44.640,0:40:48.960
and you’re less stigmatized in such a

0:40:46.720,0:40:50.560
society today about it

0:40:48.960,0:40:52.240
which is a good thing you know when i

0:40:50.560,0:40:53.760
grew up as a teen you didn’t talk about

0:40:52.240,0:40:55.520
these things

0:40:53.760,0:40:57.040
um you didn’t talk about your feelings

0:40:55.520,0:40:58.720
you didn’t you weren’t allowed to have

0:40:57.040,0:41:00.160
feelings when you were a kid not like

0:40:58.720,0:41:02.240
you were a boy

0:41:00.160,0:41:04.560
you know the the gender roles were so

0:41:02.240,0:41:08.000
clearly defined

0:41:04.560,0:41:10.400
you know 30 years ago that

0:41:08.000,0:41:13.040
you boys were tough and girls were the

0:41:10.400,0:41:15.440
emotional ones and and if

0:41:13.040,0:41:17.920
the two mixed there was a problem

0:41:15.440,0:41:19.359
um so it was a very different world back

0:41:17.920,0:41:21.920
then and

0:41:19.359,0:41:24.079
to look back in hindsight now

0:41:21.920,0:41:25.680
it’s kind of a relief to see that things

0:41:24.079,0:41:27.760
have progressed

0:41:25.680,0:41:30.000
as far as they have that’s not to say

0:41:27.760,0:41:32.079
that we’re where we need to be yeah

0:41:30.000,0:41:35.440
there’s definitely room

0:41:32.079,0:41:37.599
to maneuver yep do you find that any of

0:41:35.440,0:41:39.599
the guys that you talk to

0:41:37.599,0:41:40.960
or that the friends that you’ve had in

0:41:39.599,0:41:42.880
school

0:41:40.960,0:41:45.680
are they

0:41:42.880,0:41:47.440
more outgoing more open about feelings

0:41:45.680,0:41:49.960
and stuff or do you really not have

0:41:47.440,0:41:52.560
those conversations i sometimes have

0:41:49.960,0:41:53.520
conversations with some of my younger

0:41:52.560,0:41:54.319
friends

0:41:53.520,0:41:57.040
um

0:41:54.319,0:41:58.640
particularly lindsay whenever she does

0:41:57.040,0:42:02.400
go through slightly

0:41:58.640,0:42:05.839
more emotional states um and i try to

0:42:02.400,0:42:08.800
give her what i felt um what i learned

0:42:05.839,0:42:10.800
on how i was feeling around the time

0:42:08.800,0:42:12.560
i was her age and

0:42:10.800,0:42:14.640
you know trying to help her out in the

0:42:12.560,0:42:16.800
best way i can right

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and you know that is what this podcast

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was designed to do it was specifically

0:42:19.839,0:42:23.119
for you

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with the hope that maybe we could help

0:42:23.119,0:42:26.560
some other people out there with some of

0:42:24.640,0:42:29.119
the things that we went over

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so you know hopefully

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we’re helping people out

0:42:31.440,0:42:36.079
if people want to contact us we’ll we’ll

0:42:34.240,0:42:38.319
be more than happy to listen certainly

0:42:36.079,0:42:39.760
confidentially if people want to go that

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route but

0:42:39.760,0:42:44.079
you know if you need someone to talk to

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i think we’re fairly reasonable

0:42:44.079,0:42:48.240
individuals here that that would be

0:42:45.920,0:42:50.240
happy to listen and

0:42:48.240,0:42:52.000
at least listen you know i can’t promise

0:42:50.240,0:42:54.560
anything else we’re not professionals we

0:42:52.000,0:42:55.839
can’t provide you professional help but

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um

0:42:55.839,0:42:58.880
you know we’re we’re certainly happy to

0:42:57.440,0:43:00.480
listen

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so i think we’re going to take our final

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break we’re going to come back uh real

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quick we’ll get your closing

0:43:04.079,0:43:11.079
thoughts and finish up with the podcast

0:43:06.480,0:43:11.079
business alrighty we’ll be right back

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go for your closing remarks all right so

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to everyone out there i just wanted to

0:43:18.319,0:43:22.880
let everyone know that it’s all right if

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you feel like a burden like we mentioned

0:43:22.880,0:43:28.079
before everyone goes through it and

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everyone can go through it at some point

0:43:28.079,0:43:32.640
there’s always going to be a moment

0:43:30.240,0:43:35.839
where everyone can go through questions

0:43:32.640,0:43:36.800
of selfish like low self-esteem

0:43:35.839,0:43:40.160
um

0:43:36.800,0:43:42.400
feelings of sadness or depression and

0:43:40.160,0:43:44.960
just know that you’re not alone and in a

0:43:42.400,0:43:47.440
lot of cases it’s better to open up to

0:43:44.960,0:43:49.280
people than keep then stay silent and

0:43:47.440,0:43:50.880
keep it all closed off

0:43:49.280,0:43:53.280
even if they don’t can’t provide you

0:43:50.880,0:43:55.440
with a solution in a lot of cases you

0:43:53.280,0:43:57.280
don’t really need a solution a lot of

0:43:55.440,0:43:58.880
times you just need someone to list

0:43:57.280,0:44:02.000
that’ll listen to you

0:43:58.880,0:44:02.720
amen to that sage advice as always thank

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you

0:44:02.720,0:44:06.720
before we go i do want to invite folks

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