Insights Into Teens: Episode 117 “Common Courtesy”

In today’s episode we’re going to discuss one of the most basic things we can impart on our teens, common courtesy. It’s a topic that’s often overlooked and taken for granted but one that can have a profound impact on our lives at just about every age. We’ll discuss how common courtesy has slipped during the digital age. Then we’ll look at some of the most basic forms of courtesy, most of which are very easy to follow and have long lasting benefits. Finally we’ll discuss how to encourage your teens to practice common courtesy into the future.

Show Notes

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  • [INTRODUCTIONS] 
    • Insights Into Teens: Episode 117 “Common Courtesy”
    • My polite and well mannered co-host Madison Whalen
    • Summary
      • In today’s episode we’re going to discuss one of the most basic things we can impart on our teens, common courtesy. It’s a topic that’s often overlooked and taken for granted but one that can have a profound impact on our lives at just about every age. We’ll discuss how common courtesy has slipped during the digital age. Then we’ll look at some of the most basic forms of courtesy, most of which are very easy to follow and have long lasting benefits. Finally we’ll discuss how to encourage your teens to practice common courtesy into the future.
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   [SEGMENT 1] 

  • Common Courtesy Should Not Be An Uncommon Virtue
  • https://www.verywellfamily.com/manners-your-teen-should-use-and-how-to-teach-them-2608864 
  • https://bit.ly/3hrne16 
    • When most parents think about teaching manners, they envision telling a preschooler to say ‘please’ and ‘thank you.’ 
      • But, good manners goes far beyond those words and it’s important to make sure you’re teaching your child good manners into their teen years and beyond.
      • Common courtesy is something that isn’t really taught in school, but something that kids are expected to practice
      • That expectation is fueled typically by example, but not by wrote teachings and as a result what is considered a common courtesy doesn’t have a particularly well defined standard.
    • Adding to this lack of formal standard or instruction in courtesy is the complications of growing up with today’s technology advancements
    • In the digital age, many teens aren’t learning basic social skills, like cellphone etiquette. 
      • And there are many manners teens often forget even though they’ve learned them in the past. 
      • Sometimes, teens go through phases where they want to look cool and manners go out the window. 
      • At other times, they get a little sloppy and forget to be polite.
    • Raising a kind and caring teen who uses good manners could be very beneficial to their future. 
      • Teens with good manners will command more respect, which could help them socially, academically and professionally in years to come.

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  • Basic Manners Teens Should Know
    • Sometimes, teens need a little refresher on the basic manners department. 
    • It’s easy for them to develop a few bad habits when hanging out with their peers or they may get a little lazy from time to time.
      • Here are some basic manners you should ensure your teen uses on a regular basis, and really most of these are no brainer self explanatory type things everyone should adhere to:
        • Apologize when they’ve done something wrong
  • Ask permission to do things
  • Don’t answer calls when they’re in the middle of a face-to-face conversation
  • Refrain from texting and using social media when talking to people face-to-face.
  • Keep their hands to themselves and don’t grab things out of people’s hands.
  • Say ‘excuse me’ when they need to interrupt or if they accidentally bump into someone.
  • Make eye contact in conversations.
  • Wait their turn to speak in a conversation.
  • Say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ when it’s appropriate
  • Shake hands when greeting someone new (when it’s appropriate).
  • Take care of basic hygiene, including coughing into their elbow and covering their mouth when they sneeze.
  • Use appropriate language and answer questions when asked, avoid using slang words or resorting to vulgarity even in a casual setting.
  • Use proper table manners when eating, don’t reach in front of someone, elbows off the table, don’t slouch.
  • Write thank you notes to people who give them gifts.
  • In our digital world, it’s easy for teens to lose sight of basic manners. 
    • But grunting when Grandma asks a question or texting when eating a meal is rude. 
    • So it’s important to teach your teen how to communicate, interact, and respond to others in a polite and kind manner.

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  • How to Encourage Good Manners
    • You can get your teen to use their manners the same way you get them to do anything else:
  • Be clear about what you expect.
  • Give your teen consequences when necessary.
  • Model the behavior you want to see.
  • Talk about the benefits of having good manners.
  • Avoid lecturing your teen or embarrassing them in public when they make a mistake. 
    • Instead, have private conversations about their manners when you see a problem.
  • The exception to the rule is disrespect. 
    • If your teen is disrespectful toward you, intervene right away. 
    • Make it clear that you won’t tolerate being treated in an unkind manner. 
    • Remove your teen’s privileges and allow them to earn their privileges back when they behave politely.
  • Give your teen opportunities to practice good manners. 
    • Returning an item to the store
    • Scheduling their own appointment
    • Asking the wait staff for another drink in a restaurant serve as chances for them to practice their skills.
  • You can also talk about characters on TV or in movies and how they interact with others. 
    • Discuss how manners affect people’s lives. 
    • When your teen is about to enter a new situation, role play. 
    • For example, before they pick up a date for the prom, talk about how to greet their parents. 
    • Or before they go to an appointment on their own, role-play how to check-in at the desk.
  • When you see your teen display good manners, point it out. 
    • Acknowledge when they’re doing a good job and they’ll be more likely to keep up the good work.
    • Your feedback can be a critical component of your teen’s ability to learn new manners and sharpen his skills.

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Transcription

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insights into things a podcast network

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welcome to insights into teens a podcast

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series exploring the issues and

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challenges

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of today’s youth your hosts are joseph

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and madison whalen

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a father and daughter team making their

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way through the challenges of the

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teenage years

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welcome to insights in the teens this is

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episode 117

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common courtesy i’m your host joseph

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whalen

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and my polite and well-mannered co-host

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madison whalen

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hi everyone how you doing today

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sweetheart i’m doing all right how about

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you

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doing all right doing all right anything

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exciting this week

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actually yes what was that um

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i’m now going to um

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i’m now going to band every tuesday and

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wednesday night

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for marching band practice okay that’s

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exciting

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learning new music and dance i guess

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steps marching steps and stuff

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yeah that kind of stuff we actually had

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to kind of change our schedule a bit

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podcast on thursdays while mommies is on

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wednesdays

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right we were doing our insights into

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teens wednesdays

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uh your band schedule is tuesday and

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wednesday

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so we swap that over to mommy’s which is

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she’s on wednesday for entertainment and

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thursday we’re doing teens

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and this weekend we’ll actually be

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shooting uh our next episode of insights

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into tomorrow

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and then next week we’re actually off

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we’re taking time off

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uh we’re kind of on vacation but we’re

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not really going anywhere for vacation

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um but we’ll be doing some changes in

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and as a result i don’t think we’ll be

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ready to shoot by the time

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our regular schedule comes up yeah so

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just a programming note that we won’t be

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going live next week

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i expect to get everything done by the

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following week but there is

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an outside chance that we won’t but

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that’s not what we’re talking about

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today

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so in today’s episode we’re going to

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discuss one of the most basic

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things we can impart on our teens common

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courtesy

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it’s a topic that’s often overlooked and

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taken for granted

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but one that can have a profound impact

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on our lives at just about any age

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we’ll discuss how common courtesy has

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slipped during the digital age

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then we’ll look at some of the most

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basic forms of common courtesy

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most of which are very easy to follow

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and have long lasting benefits

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and finally we’ll discuss how to

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encourage your teens to practice common

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courtesy in the future

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but before we do that i would invite our

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so common courtesy should not be an

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uncommon virtue

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you know what i mean by that um

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basically

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it should be well known by everyone

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exactly like

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everyone should know the basics of

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common courtesy

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you should know how to be polite you

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should know how to how to

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uh behave in a public setting how to

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talk to people

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how to how to have a conversation a lot

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of people don’t even know how to have a

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conversation anymore

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um and a lot of these things are things

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that help us socially they may help us

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academically and they

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certainly help us professionally there’s

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a

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whole other topic of professional

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courtesy that we can get into that we’re

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not going to talk about today

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but the basic courtesy skills that we

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should all know

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are things that will help us in pretty

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much every facet of our lives

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when most parents think about teaching

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manners they envision

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telling preschoolers to say please and

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thank you and

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and things like that and and that’s good

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i’m not saying don’t do that

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but good manners go far beyond those

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words

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and it’s important to make sure you’re

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teaching your child good manners

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into their teen years and beyond common

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courtesy is something that

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isn’t really taught in school but

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something that kids are expected to

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practice anyway

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that expectation is fueled typically by

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example

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but not by rote teaching like they don’t

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have

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etiquette class or anything like that

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anymore they used two years ago but they

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don’t do any of that now

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so as a result what’s considered common

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courtesy doesn’t

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have a particularly well-defined

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standard

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what i might think is polite somebody

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else might not necessarily think it is

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so adding to this lack of formal

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standard or instruction

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in courtesy is the complications of

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growing up with today’s

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technological advancements what are some

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of the

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things that we run into with that in the

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digital age many teens aren’t learning

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basic

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social skills like cell phone cell phone

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etiquette there are and there are many

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manners teens often forget even though

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they’ve learned them in the past

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sometimes scenes go through

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faces where they want to look cool and

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manners

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go out the window at other times they

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get a little sloppy and forget to be

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polite

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raising a kind and caring teen who uses

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good manners

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could be very beneficial to their future

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teens with good manners will command

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more respect

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which could help them socially

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academically and professionally in years

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to come

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so do you think that you have good

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manners do you think that you’re

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uh you practice common courtesy

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i think for the most part i do there’s

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probably some things i’m kind of

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lackluster on but

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i do kind of consider myself to be

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polite in most

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instances and i would tend to agree um

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you’re appreciative when people do

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things for you you

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are you don’t interrupt you know you

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you wait for an opportune moment

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in which to inject yourself into a

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conversation

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you do say thank you when people do

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things for you you say please when you

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ask for something so

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i’m i’m confident that you have most of

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the basics down and i think a lot of

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that has to do

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just with seeing how mommy and i behave

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you know a lot of times we joke around

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we’re not formal i certainly wouldn’t

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say that we’re formal when it comes to

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courtesies and stuff like that

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um but you know when i say formal

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one of the things we’ll talk about later

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is something like writing thank you

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notes

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we don’t really do that as much as we

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used to we probably should

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you know when someone for instance uh

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gma’s sends you a

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a birthday present and

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when i was a kid you know my mom would

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sit down with me we would write out a

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letter to that

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person and we would thank them and give

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them an update on how we’re doing and

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things like that

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and it was it was how you communicated

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back in the day

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nowadays what do you what do you do when

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gmos send you a birthday present i

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typically go on my phone and text her

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saying thank you

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right and and while that’s

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effective it kind of lacks that

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that personal touch you know even if you

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picked up the phone and called her and

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talked to her

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that lack of uh real time two-way

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communication not that the letter gave

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you that

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but you would wind up putting a lot more

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into a letter than you would into a text

0:09:19.440,0:09:22.800
message

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so that’s sort of some of the things

0:09:22.800,0:09:26.720
that we’re talking about where that’s a

0:09:24.160,0:09:28.560
little bit more on the formal side

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um but some of the things that we’re

0:09:28.560,0:09:34.480
going to talk about today

0:09:30.560,0:09:36.000
are more basic stuff

0:09:34.480,0:09:38.240
like when you do something wrong you

0:09:36.000,0:09:41.600
apologize we kind of talked about that

0:09:38.240,0:09:44.160
in a previous podcast if you do

0:09:41.600,0:09:47.680
something wrong you should apologize

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and you should do it not because

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mommy and daddy told you to you should

0:09:50.000,0:09:55.360
do it because it’s the right thing

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and i think a lot of people lose out on

0:09:55.360,0:10:00.560
common courtesy because common courtesy

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is often the right thing to do and

0:10:00.560,0:10:05.519
people don’t realize it is

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do you think mommy and daddy practice

0:10:05.519,0:10:08.959
common courtesy

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yeah i would consider you two being very

0:10:08.959,0:10:13.760
polite um

0:10:10.640,0:10:16.720
probably where i got it from you know

0:10:13.760,0:10:18.560
um you guys have taught me have

0:10:16.720,0:10:21.920
basically shown and taught me

0:10:18.560,0:10:22.640
how to be respectful and some of the

0:10:21.920,0:10:25.120
basic

0:10:22.640,0:10:26.399
kinds of common courtesy so i definitely

0:10:25.120,0:10:29.360
think that you both

0:10:26.399,0:10:30.399
are very polite and courteous when it

0:10:29.360,0:10:33.519
comes

0:10:30.399,0:10:35.600
to this so how about school do they

0:10:33.519,0:10:38.399
teach courtesy in school or do they try

0:10:35.600,0:10:42.079
to enforce courtesy in school

0:10:38.399,0:10:45.519
not well basically the only

0:10:42.079,0:10:47.600
real common courtesy

0:10:45.519,0:10:50.399
is not interrupting the teacher and

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raising your hand if you have a question

0:10:50.399,0:10:56.000
and that’s kind of it mostly they don’t

0:10:53.920,0:10:57.760
really

0:10:56.000,0:10:59.440
like we said before they don’t really

0:10:57.760,0:11:02.640
teach us a lot of

0:10:59.440,0:11:04.560
uh common courtesies in school

0:11:02.640,0:11:06.480
except for that one time where we were

0:11:04.560,0:11:09.920
doing like soup etiquette

0:11:06.480,0:11:12.880
like for an ela class um but but do they

0:11:09.920,0:11:15.440
expect common courtesy like for instance

0:11:12.880,0:11:16.640
the the biggest one that i come up with

0:11:15.440,0:11:20.079
and you just mentioned is

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disrespect if you disrespect an adult

0:11:20.079,0:11:23.519
what do they do how do they react is

0:11:22.000,0:11:26.000
there punishment involved

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is there lecturing what do they do yeah

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there’s typically some form of

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punishment

0:11:28.560,0:11:34.720
probably detention being one of them or

0:11:32.399,0:11:36.079
like a strike or something but there is

0:11:34.720,0:11:37.200
always typically a punishment for

0:11:36.079,0:11:40.000
disrespecting

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an adult so the the expectation that you

0:11:40.000,0:11:44.240
have courtesy is there

0:11:41.200,0:11:47.760
and respect but the definition of it

0:11:44.240,0:11:50.160
really is never given it’s never taught

0:11:47.760,0:11:51.760
so you’re kind of expected to figure

0:11:50.160,0:11:52.480
that out on your own which is what it

0:11:51.760,0:11:54.959
sounds like

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i mean they kind of tell you like what

0:11:54.959,0:11:59.760
you’re expected to do

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they don’t like spell it out for you

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they just give you it and you’re

0:12:01.120,0:12:05.519
supposed to

0:12:02.320,0:12:07.519
know what not to do because you learn

0:12:05.519,0:12:10.639
the punishments of it and everything

0:12:07.519,0:12:11.040
so so they’re their way of teaching you

0:12:10.639,0:12:13.839
is

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teaching you by negative reinforcement

0:12:13.839,0:12:17.600
so if you do something bad you get

0:12:15.519,0:12:19.920
punished for it not

0:12:17.600,0:12:21.360
this is how you should be or you get

0:12:19.920,0:12:24.000
punished

0:12:21.360,0:12:26.240
how do you know not to do something

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until you do it in your punish like

0:12:26.240,0:12:32.560
what’s the what’s the preventative

0:12:29.440,0:12:35.279
action there like if you say something

0:12:32.560,0:12:37.040
you know rude to a teacher that you’ve

0:12:35.279,0:12:39.200
never said before

0:12:37.040,0:12:40.720
and they just give you detention on the

0:12:39.200,0:12:42.560
spot for that how do you know not to say

0:12:40.720,0:12:46.399
that in the first place

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um i mean you guys

0:12:46.399,0:12:50.959
you’ve kind of you guys were the ones

0:12:49.120,0:12:52.240
who taught me to never really say that

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and i guess

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teachers kind of assume that parents

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teach the kids or

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kids are expected to be polite and such

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and i think that’s

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that’s kind of the point that i’m

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getting at here is that that’s something

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teachers

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the school system is assuming that

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teachers are doing

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or that that parents are doing and in

0:13:10.800,0:13:13.440
reality

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a lot of parents aren’t doing that

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unfortunately

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so as a result the kids never

0:13:18.399,0:13:23.519
get taught what common courtesy is and

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their parents may not practice common

0:13:23.519,0:13:26.399
courtesy so when they go out into the

0:13:24.880,0:13:28.959
real world

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they run into problems now you had

0:13:28.959,0:13:33.360
mentioned

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soup at a kid what were you talking

0:13:33.360,0:13:35.200
about i

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think i have an idea of what you’re

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talking about but explain that

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um it was basically um i think it was

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it had to do with a certain book we were

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reading but it was like

0:13:44.320,0:13:49.279
we were learning like stuff about

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etiquette and we were watching a video

0:13:49.279,0:13:52.480
on

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how to how people properly eat soup and

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kind of like

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thinking what we thought was strange

0:13:55.839,0:13:59.279
about it because

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it was really not how a lot of us ate

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soups so

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so what do they tell you um

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i remember one was um

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you have to hold your spoon

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kind of like sideways in your hand

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and then you scoop it up from you scoop

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it up from one end to the other and you

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only feel the spoon

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um two thirds of the way and

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um

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uh and what you pour it in your mouth

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you don’t slurp it yeah i’m pretty sure

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it was pouring

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yeah and that kind of goes back to the

0:14:36.800,0:14:40.720
etiquette classes that i was referring

0:14:39.519,0:14:42.880
to

0:14:40.720,0:14:44.079
where they would teach rules like that

0:14:42.880,0:14:46.160
they would teach posture

0:14:44.079,0:14:47.920
rules you know when you sit in your

0:14:46.160,0:14:49.519
chair you should sit you know straight

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up your back should be straight

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and they would go so far as to teach

0:14:51.760,0:14:57.120
young girls

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to walk with with poised posture

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by having a stack of books or something

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on their head and they couldn’t let them

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fall off

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and that’s really that was kind of a

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product of the victorian age of how to

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do all that stuff and

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by the time i reached school they had

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they had

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done away with most of that although in

0:15:13.279,0:15:17.360
some of the religious studies that that

0:15:15.120,0:15:20.560
my parents have been involved in

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you still address some of that stuff

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and that’s not what we’re talking about

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today we’re talking about the common

0:15:24.399,0:15:27.680
courtesies

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so let’s take a little break and then

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we’ll come back and we’ll talk about

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some of the basic manners the teens

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welcome back to insights into teens

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today we’re talking

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common courtesy so basic manners teens

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should know sometimes teens need a

0:16:51.920,0:16:56.160
little refresher

0:16:53.279,0:16:57.920
on the basic manners department it’s

0:16:56.160,0:17:00.480
easy for them to develop a few bad

0:16:57.920,0:17:02.079
habits when hanging out with their peers

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or they might get a little lazy from

0:17:02.079,0:17:08.000
time to time here are some basic manners

0:17:05.280,0:17:10.400
you should ensure your teens use

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on a regular basis and really most of

0:17:10.400,0:17:14.079
these are

0:17:11.039,0:17:16.319
no brainer self-explanatory type things

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everyone should and and for the most

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part probably

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do adhere to the first one we talked

0:17:20.160,0:17:22.880
about already

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and that’s apologizing when you’ve done

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something wrong

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not only is it the polite thing to do

0:17:26.079,0:17:31.520
but it also has

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a um a beneficial effect

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both physiologically and psychologically

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on you when you do something wrong

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yeah otherwise you walk around with all

0:17:37.039,0:17:41.120
that guilt yeah

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the next one is ask permission to do

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things

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which you know anyone who just decides

0:17:44.960,0:17:48.960
that they’re going to take

0:17:46.000,0:17:51.200
something of yours or go someplace that

0:17:48.960,0:17:53.440
they’re not invited to go to

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there’s a social problem that arises

0:17:53.440,0:17:58.160
from that immediately

0:17:56.000,0:18:00.400
don’t answer calls when they’re in the

0:17:58.160,0:18:01.679
middle of a face-to-face conversation

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this is basic phone

0:18:01.679,0:18:05.600
etiquette here we have a rule that we

0:18:04.080,0:18:06.160
don’t answer the phone during dinner

0:18:05.600,0:18:08.480
time

0:18:06.160,0:18:10.640
you know simple things like that that

0:18:08.480,0:18:13.360
you can reinforce with your kids

0:18:10.640,0:18:15.679
just as common courtesy will help them

0:18:13.360,0:18:18.000
throughout life

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refrain from texting and using social

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media when talking to people face to

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face there’s nothing more annoying

0:18:21.760,0:18:25.600
than having a conversation with someone

0:18:23.679,0:18:27.440
and their face is glued to their phone

0:18:25.600,0:18:28.720
and they’re playing a game or texting or

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doing something

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and you know that they’re not paying

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attention to you

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that’s annoying to me maybe i’m just old

0:18:36.880,0:18:43.440
i don’t get it but what else do we have

0:18:40.000,0:18:45.200
um next up we have keep their hands to

0:18:43.440,0:18:46.559
themselves and don’t grab things out of

0:18:45.200,0:18:48.640
people’s hands

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which is probably a very good thing

0:18:48.640,0:18:53.679
considering the pandemic

0:18:50.160,0:18:56.960
oh that’s that’s a very good point

0:18:53.679,0:18:59.120
yeah um that was one of the things that

0:18:56.960,0:19:01.120
school did instill in us especially when

0:18:59.120,0:19:03.200
we were younger because

0:19:01.120,0:19:04.559
kids would take things from other kids

0:19:03.200,0:19:07.120
and basically

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you had to not do that because you would

0:19:07.120,0:19:12.240
get the other kid upset and such

0:19:09.440,0:19:13.520
and it would cause conflicts so um

0:19:12.240,0:19:14.240
that’s something they instilled us when

0:19:13.520,0:19:15.840
we were younger

0:19:14.240,0:19:17.280
and you know growing up with three older

0:19:15.840,0:19:20.480
brothers that was a lesson that i there

0:19:17.280,0:19:23.840
was a hard lesson i had to learn

0:19:20.480,0:19:25.679
uh next up we have say excuse me when

0:19:23.840,0:19:27.840
they need to interrupt or if they

0:19:25.679,0:19:30.799
accidentally bump into someone

0:19:27.840,0:19:32.799
again that’s a no-brainer yeah you don’t

0:19:30.799,0:19:36.160
just barge into a conversation

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yep next up is make eye contact in

0:19:36.160,0:19:38.960
conversations this is something i kind

0:19:38.080,0:19:42.880
of

0:19:38.960,0:19:45.039
struggle with for the most part because

0:19:42.880,0:19:47.440
i get scared when people stare me in the

0:19:45.039,0:19:49.039
eye well and this is one of those ones

0:19:47.440,0:19:52.240
that i think a lot of people

0:19:49.039,0:19:53.919
take for granted one thing you’ll find

0:19:52.240,0:19:54.640
is that as you’re having a conversation

0:19:53.919,0:19:57.280
with someone

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if you’re looking at them and you’re

0:19:57.280,0:20:01.520
engaging with them in fact there was a

0:19:59.280,0:20:02.880
geico commercial you know the the eye

0:20:01.520,0:20:05.280
contact one with the

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with the gecko where it’s like oh we had

0:20:05.280,0:20:07.600
a moment there

0:20:06.080,0:20:09.520
and you really do when you have a

0:20:07.600,0:20:10.400
conversation with someone and you engage

0:20:09.520,0:20:12.080
them

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with your eyes now the one thing that i

0:20:12.080,0:20:16.240
told you is if you’re not comfortable

0:20:13.760,0:20:17.360
looking at someone’s eyes look at their

0:20:16.240,0:20:19.440
mouth

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one thing that i found because i have

0:20:19.440,0:20:23.520
some issues with hearing

0:20:21.280,0:20:25.039
is sometimes i don’t hear everything

0:20:23.520,0:20:26.799
that people say especially if it’s in a

0:20:25.039,0:20:28.240
crowded room it’s difficult for me to

0:20:26.799,0:20:30.880
distinguish

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individual sounds so what i find is if

0:20:30.880,0:20:33.280
i’m

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in a crowded room having a conversation

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i’ll watch someone’s mouth as they talk

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this way there’s a chance that if i

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mishear something

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i can kind of see what they’re saying

0:20:43.520,0:20:48.159
i don’t read lips proficiently but i can

0:20:46.559,0:20:50.080
see how they’re forming their words and

0:20:48.159,0:20:52.000
then i can kind of figure it out

0:20:50.080,0:20:53.919
but at the same time i’m looking

0:20:52.000,0:20:55.200
directly at them and they see that and

0:20:53.919,0:20:57.120
they know that i’m engaged in the

0:20:55.200,0:20:59.600
conversation

0:20:57.120,0:21:01.120
what else do we have next up we have

0:20:59.600,0:21:03.280
wait their turn to speak in a

0:21:01.120,0:21:05.120
conversation

0:21:03.280,0:21:06.880
kind of the same thing with the whole

0:21:05.120,0:21:08.240
excuse me thing except it’s not about

0:21:06.880,0:21:11.600
bumping into someone

0:21:08.240,0:21:13.919
exactly uh next up we have say please

0:21:11.600,0:21:15.919
and thank you when it’s appropriate

0:21:13.919,0:21:18.159
now this one i think pretty much

0:21:15.919,0:21:20.799
everyone knows to do this

0:21:18.159,0:21:22.799
i think these are probably the most

0:21:20.799,0:21:23.679
overlooked or forgotten ones that you

0:21:22.799,0:21:26.240
have

0:21:23.679,0:21:28.080
a lot of times you’re in a hairy a lot

0:21:26.240,0:21:30.320
of times

0:21:28.080,0:21:32.159
the person that you’re with is probably

0:21:30.320,0:21:33.520
someone that you’re very familiar with

0:21:32.159,0:21:36.000
and they know that you’re thankful for

0:21:33.520,0:21:37.679
what they did or what they gave you

0:21:36.000,0:21:39.600
but that’s really not a reason not to

0:21:37.679,0:21:42.640
say thank you is it yeah

0:21:39.600,0:21:44.720
so this is one that you can you can kind

0:21:42.640,0:21:47.679
of train yourself very easily

0:21:44.720,0:21:48.880
by doing it over and over again and if

0:21:47.679,0:21:50.559
you do it with the people that you’re

0:21:48.880,0:21:52.320
most familiar with then you’ll know

0:21:50.559,0:21:55.039
automatically to do it with

0:21:52.320,0:21:55.919
strangers or people you interact with

0:21:55.039,0:21:59.039
outside your

0:21:55.919,0:22:00.799
immediate friends and friends and family

0:21:59.039,0:22:03.039
the next one is another important one

0:22:00.799,0:22:06.080
that we talk about and that is to shake

0:22:03.039,0:22:09.600
hands when greeting someone now again

0:22:06.080,0:22:11.440
pandemic in mind here you kind of have

0:22:09.600,0:22:12.000
to be careful right now a lot of people

0:22:11.440,0:22:15.039
are

0:22:12.000,0:22:17.600
bumping elbows fist bumping tapping feet

0:22:15.039,0:22:20.080
you know stuff like that

0:22:17.600,0:22:21.760
the fact that people go to that extent

0:22:20.080,0:22:24.840
during the pandemic tells you how

0:22:21.760,0:22:27.840
important this simple act alone

0:22:24.840,0:22:30.960
is and that

0:22:27.840,0:22:31.280
interpersonal relationship is pretty

0:22:30.960,0:22:34.880
much

0:22:31.280,0:22:36.080
universal every culture every country

0:22:34.880,0:22:38.070
uses it

0:22:36.080,0:22:39.120
so it’s a very common form

0:22:38.070,0:22:42.080
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0:22:39.120,0:22:42.480
of greeting and is actually one that

0:22:42.080,0:22:45.760
goes

0:22:42.480,0:22:46.799
back with quite a tradition into the

0:22:45.760,0:22:49.360
middle ages

0:22:46.799,0:22:50.240
and and probably even further back and

0:22:49.360,0:22:53.440
that was

0:22:50.240,0:22:54.559
when you would greet an enemy you would

0:22:53.440,0:22:56.000
show them that you have an

0:22:54.559,0:22:58.960
empty hand you don’t have a weapon in

0:22:56.000,0:23:00.720
your hand and that eventually evolved

0:22:58.960,0:23:01.919
into just a greeting at that point where

0:23:00.720,0:23:04.240
you would shake hands

0:23:01.919,0:23:05.840
okay interesting yeah and a lot of

0:23:04.240,0:23:06.880
people don’t realize that so it’s a

0:23:05.840,0:23:10.080
basic human

0:23:06.880,0:23:11.440
instinct that you’re kind of exposing

0:23:10.080,0:23:14.880
yourself and making yourself

0:23:11.440,0:23:16.400
vulnerable by shaking someone’s hand

0:23:14.880,0:23:17.520
and when you do it it should be a firm

0:23:16.400,0:23:19.520
handshake you don’t want to hand

0:23:17.520,0:23:19.840
somebody a wet noodle handshake type

0:23:19.520,0:23:22.000
thing

0:23:19.840,0:23:23.760
so you know you can go into the details

0:23:22.000,0:23:26.400
of how to shake a hand

0:23:23.760,0:23:28.400
but that’s something to keep in mind the

0:23:26.400,0:23:31.120
next is take care of basic hygiene

0:23:28.400,0:23:33.280
including coughing into your elbow and

0:23:31.120,0:23:36.559
covering your mouth when you sneeze

0:23:33.280,0:23:38.960
again thinking with the pandemic around

0:23:36.559,0:23:40.240
it highlighted how significant that was

0:23:38.960,0:23:43.120
to people

0:23:40.240,0:23:44.880
you walk into a a room of people and you

0:23:43.120,0:23:47.919
start coughing or sneezing

0:23:44.880,0:23:48.320
you’ll clear a room out nowadays and you

0:23:47.919,0:23:51.840
you

0:23:48.320,0:23:54.080
freak people out but

0:23:51.840,0:23:55.679
you know you’re doing that out of a

0:23:54.080,0:23:58.240
courtesy for them

0:23:55.679,0:24:01.120
to prevent spreading germs to them

0:23:58.240,0:24:03.919
whether it’s a pandemic or not

0:24:01.120,0:24:04.960
use appropriate language and answer

0:24:03.919,0:24:08.400
questions when

0:24:04.960,0:24:09.600
asked now let me stop

0:24:08.400,0:24:11.840
for there a second a little bit more

0:24:09.600,0:24:14.320
here but let me stop there

0:24:11.840,0:24:15.919
when they say that answer questions when

0:24:14.320,0:24:18.559
asked

0:24:15.919,0:24:20.640
avoid answering a question with a

0:24:18.559,0:24:23.840
question

0:24:20.640,0:24:26.720
that that is a big

0:24:23.840,0:24:28.559
etiquette no-no when you do that you

0:24:26.720,0:24:31.200
know somebody says

0:24:28.559,0:24:32.080
uh where are you today and you answer

0:24:31.200,0:24:35.760
with well why are you

0:24:32.080,0:24:38.320
asking that’s a big no-no

0:24:35.760,0:24:39.679
so if you don’t want to answer the

0:24:38.320,0:24:43.360
question

0:24:39.679,0:24:46.640
completely honestly you can answer with

0:24:43.360,0:24:49.039
non-relevant information where were you

0:24:46.640,0:24:50.320
today uh i was out

0:24:49.039,0:24:52.080
but you don’t answer with why do you

0:24:50.320,0:24:54.320
want to know so

0:24:52.080,0:24:55.919
that’s one important thing to to keep in

0:24:54.320,0:24:58.840
mind

0:24:55.919,0:25:01.840
and they go on to say avoid using slang

0:24:58.840,0:25:03.919
words and resorting to vulgarity even in

0:25:01.840,0:25:07.840
a casual setting

0:25:03.919,0:25:08.880
now it’s difficult to not use slang with

0:25:07.840,0:25:10.559
your friends

0:25:08.880,0:25:13.200
everyone has their own little language

0:25:10.559,0:25:16.720
they communicate with

0:25:13.200,0:25:18.720
and into adulthood it’s difficult to

0:25:16.720,0:25:19.919
not feel so comfortable around someone

0:25:18.720,0:25:23.039
that

0:25:19.919,0:25:24.880
you’ll use vulgarity not for the sake of

0:25:23.039,0:25:26.159
vulgarity but a lot of times people will

0:25:24.880,0:25:29.440
use swear words

0:25:26.159,0:25:31.440
to emphasize things or

0:25:29.440,0:25:32.880
to express outrage or something like

0:25:31.440,0:25:35.200
that they use it kind of like

0:25:32.880,0:25:37.520
exclamation points

0:25:35.200,0:25:38.960
you should try to avoid that because if

0:25:37.520,0:25:40.799
you get into the habit of doing that

0:25:38.960,0:25:43.200
around the people that you see

0:25:40.799,0:25:44.880
on a regular basis there’s a very good

0:25:43.200,0:25:46.559
chance that that’s going to slip

0:25:44.880,0:25:48.880
when you’re in an audience that you

0:25:46.559,0:25:50.799
don’t want that thing sort of

0:25:48.880,0:25:53.279
language to come across so if you kind

0:25:50.799,0:25:55.600
of keep a muzzle on

0:25:53.279,0:25:57.600
the slang and the bad words with friends

0:25:55.600,0:25:59.520
then you’ll instinctively do that

0:25:57.600,0:26:03.279
outside of that

0:25:59.520,0:26:05.200
enclosed environment okay use proper

0:26:03.279,0:26:07.120
table manners when eating

0:26:05.200,0:26:09.600
don’t reach in front of someone elbows

0:26:07.120,0:26:11.360
are off the table and don’t slouch

0:26:09.600,0:26:12.880
i’m not going to preach beyond that

0:26:11.360,0:26:14.400
because i’m not the best person when it

0:26:12.880,0:26:16.799
comes to table matters

0:26:14.400,0:26:18.159
yeah and the last one here we talked

0:26:16.799,0:26:20.480
about already is the right thank you

0:26:18.159,0:26:22.880
notes to people who give you gifts

0:26:20.480,0:26:24.480
that’s just a really nice personal way

0:26:22.880,0:26:27.520
of thanking someone

0:26:24.480,0:26:28.960
texting’s okay but think of the last

0:26:27.520,0:26:30.720
time you got a letter in the mail how

0:26:28.960,0:26:32.480
did that make you feel

0:26:30.720,0:26:34.799
to know that somebody took the time to

0:26:32.480,0:26:36.799
sit down write the letter out

0:26:34.799,0:26:38.880
address an envelope put a stamp on it

0:26:36.799,0:26:40.799
and drop it in the mailbox

0:26:38.880,0:26:42.799
that says a lot more about what that

0:26:40.799,0:26:45.440
person’s thinking of you

0:26:42.799,0:26:47.120
than when they jot off a 140 character

0:26:45.440,0:26:50.240
text message on their phone right

0:26:47.120,0:26:51.360
yeah so that’s where common courtesy

0:26:50.240,0:26:54.720
really comes in it it

0:26:51.360,0:26:55.600
really helps to express your feelings

0:26:54.720,0:27:00.559
your thoughts

0:26:55.600,0:27:03.039
and your consideration for other people

0:27:00.559,0:27:05.120
what about the digital world so in our

0:27:03.039,0:27:07.039
digital world it’s easy for teens to

0:27:05.120,0:27:08.799
lose sight of basic manners

0:27:07.039,0:27:10.880
but grunting when grandma asks a

0:27:08.799,0:27:12.240
question or texting when eating a meal

0:27:10.880,0:27:14.159
is rude

0:27:12.240,0:27:16.320
so it’s important to teach your teen how

0:27:14.159,0:27:19.039
to communicate interact and respond to

0:27:16.320,0:27:20.480
others in a polite and kind manner

0:27:19.039,0:27:23.279
and you know i’m gonna i’m gonna play

0:27:20.480,0:27:25.679
the old man card here again

0:27:23.279,0:27:27.200
one of the things that people find as

0:27:25.679,0:27:30.720
they get older

0:27:27.200,0:27:33.120
is they slow down

0:27:30.720,0:27:34.000
you know that your your perception of

0:27:33.120,0:27:37.120
time slows

0:27:34.000,0:27:40.799
down the older that you get so what

0:27:37.120,0:27:41.279
for you you know three months might seem

0:27:40.799,0:27:45.200
like an

0:27:41.279,0:27:47.440
agonizingly long wait to get to summer

0:27:45.200,0:27:48.320
for someone that’s older and even older

0:27:47.440,0:27:51.520
than me

0:27:48.320,0:27:54.080
three months is a blink of an eye so

0:27:51.520,0:27:55.039
when people take the time to actually

0:27:54.080,0:27:57.520
slow down

0:27:55.039,0:27:59.120
and communicate and have a conversation

0:27:57.520,0:28:02.720
or write a letter

0:27:59.120,0:28:04.399
that means a lot more to older people

0:28:02.720,0:28:05.760
than it does to younger people because

0:28:04.399,0:28:08.640
younger people

0:28:05.760,0:28:10.480
their perception of time is very

0:28:08.640,0:28:12.399
different than older folks

0:28:10.480,0:28:15.840
so for younger folks everything’s quick

0:28:12.399,0:28:17.760
do this do that take shortcuts you know

0:28:15.840,0:28:20.559
i don’t have time to do things and i’m

0:28:17.760,0:28:22.880
busy i got stuff going on and you do

0:28:20.559,0:28:24.399
but if you’re dealing with a grandparent

0:28:22.880,0:28:27.760
or an older parent

0:28:24.399,0:28:28.720
or a colleague at work or a teacher at

0:28:27.760,0:28:30.640
school

0:28:28.720,0:28:32.480
you have to kind of keep in mind in the

0:28:30.640,0:28:34.240
back of your mind that

0:28:32.480,0:28:35.840
they don’t go through the same type of

0:28:34.240,0:28:38.320
things that you do

0:28:35.840,0:28:39.919
so you kind of have to operate at their

0:28:38.320,0:28:41.760
level to a certain point

0:28:39.919,0:28:43.600
so that they understand that you do

0:28:41.760,0:28:46.559
appreciate them

0:28:43.600,0:28:48.000
you know when jima you know makes you a

0:28:46.559,0:28:50.480
blanket

0:28:48.000,0:28:52.080
and sends that to you rather than taking

0:28:50.480,0:28:53.200
15 minutes to run to the store and buy

0:28:52.080,0:28:57.039
something

0:28:53.200,0:28:59.520
it took like man hours

0:28:57.039,0:29:01.200
hours and hours to make a present like

0:28:59.520,0:29:04.080
that

0:29:01.200,0:29:06.720
that’s how much time she’s invested in

0:29:04.080,0:29:10.640
making something for you

0:29:06.720,0:29:12.640
that’s a huge investment and

0:29:10.640,0:29:14.960
you at that point in time need to make a

0:29:12.640,0:29:16.640
big deal about it it deserves to have a

0:29:14.960,0:29:18.720
big deal made about it

0:29:16.640,0:29:20.480
because of how much she she thought of

0:29:18.720,0:29:23.200
you to do that definitely

0:29:20.480,0:29:25.039
um so that’s sort of you kind of have to

0:29:23.200,0:29:27.120
keep things into perspective

0:29:25.039,0:29:28.080
that’s really what i’m getting at there

0:29:27.120,0:29:30.399
okay

0:29:28.080,0:29:32.000
so how do you think you’ve done with

0:29:30.399,0:29:33.600
these common courtesies that we talked

0:29:32.000,0:29:36.000
about here do you think you’re

0:29:33.600,0:29:37.600
you’re on par do you think you’re

0:29:36.000,0:29:39.840
failing do you think you need to improve

0:29:37.600,0:29:42.320
in certain areas

0:29:39.840,0:29:43.600
for apologizing when i’ve done something

0:29:42.320,0:29:46.960
wrong

0:29:43.600,0:29:47.600
i probably do more than apologize mainly

0:29:46.960,0:29:49.520
because

0:29:47.600,0:29:49.950
you apologize you can do stuff right

0:29:49.520,0:29:51.520
yeah

0:29:49.950,0:29:54.080
[Laughter]

0:29:51.520,0:29:54.799
like i apologize when i kick my trumpet

0:29:54.080,0:29:58.000
yes

0:29:54.799,0:29:59.919
yes your trumpet doesn’t care

0:29:58.000,0:30:03.279
yeah so i definitely think i’m good for

0:29:59.919,0:30:06.480
that one as prince

0:30:03.279,0:30:08.399
asked permission to do things yeah i

0:30:06.480,0:30:10.960
asked permission to do things

0:30:08.399,0:30:12.080
even when i don’t have to so yeah you

0:30:10.960,0:30:13.120
asked to go to the bathroom when you’re

0:30:12.080,0:30:16.240
at the table

0:30:13.120,0:30:18.559
like like that’s courtesy that’s

0:30:16.240,0:30:20.720
old school courtesy to ask to get up to

0:30:18.559,0:30:23.760
use the restroom or something like that

0:30:20.720,0:30:25.360
we’re not nearly that formal though yeah

0:30:23.760,0:30:27.360
uh don’t answer calls when you’re in the

0:30:25.360,0:30:29.840
middle of face-to-face conversation

0:30:27.360,0:30:31.520
i don’t really do that because nobody

0:30:29.840,0:30:33.679
calls you

0:30:31.520,0:30:35.200
i don’t really answer calls unless i’m

0:30:33.679,0:30:36.799
alone and you guys

0:30:35.200,0:30:38.240
or my friends are calling me that’s kind

0:30:36.799,0:30:40.240
of it right

0:30:38.240,0:30:41.919
uh refrain from texting or using social

0:30:40.240,0:30:44.080
media when talking with people

0:30:41.919,0:30:46.880
i do try to stop what i’m doing when you

0:30:44.080,0:30:50.960
guys are trying to talk to me

0:30:46.880,0:30:52.480
um that’s good yeah um i try i like that

0:30:50.960,0:30:55.279
i try to stop

0:30:52.480,0:30:57.440
sometimes i just can’t resist no i’m i

0:30:55.279,0:30:58.000
am able to stop but it does take me some

0:30:57.440,0:31:00.799
time to

0:30:58.000,0:31:02.960
hear you here is is that’s another key

0:31:00.799,0:31:06.000
thing is with the headphones in the the

0:31:02.960,0:31:09.519
airpods in you never hear us yeah uh

0:31:06.000,0:31:10.320
keep hands themselves yeah i really

0:31:09.519,0:31:12.080
don’t

0:31:10.320,0:31:14.399
i’m not grabbing with people no you’re

0:31:12.080,0:31:16.240
not in fact i’m the exact opposite and i

0:31:14.399,0:31:19.360
don’t really want people touching me

0:31:16.240,0:31:22.240
true and it’s like very and like

0:31:19.360,0:31:22.640
if i want to hug then you can get a hug

0:31:22.240,0:31:24.640
and

0:31:22.640,0:31:26.799
surprise hugs and stuff like that i

0:31:24.640,0:31:29.039
really don’t right

0:31:26.799,0:31:30.000
um say excuse me when you need to

0:31:29.039,0:31:32.320
interrupt

0:31:30.000,0:31:33.600
i don’t do that i’m more than likely

0:31:32.320,0:31:35.519
just do you raise your hand

0:31:33.600,0:31:37.919
and you get a hail hydra your turn to

0:31:35.519,0:31:40.640
talk yeah like i’m in school because

0:31:37.919,0:31:43.039
that’s what they’ve taught me i really i

0:31:40.640,0:31:45.279
don’t interrupt a lot

0:31:43.039,0:31:47.039
uh make eye contact like i said i do

0:31:45.279,0:31:48.720
have problems with that but i’m trying

0:31:47.039,0:31:49.120
to take your advice by watching your

0:31:48.720,0:31:51.519
mouth

0:31:49.120,0:31:52.720
yep you’re getting better with that um

0:31:51.519,0:31:53.919
wait their turn to speak in a

0:31:52.720,0:31:56.279
conversation

0:31:53.919,0:31:57.760
i’m incredibly patient when it comes to

0:31:56.279,0:32:00.000
conversations

0:31:57.760,0:32:01.279
you are uh say please and thank you when

0:32:00.000,0:32:04.000
it’s appropriate

0:32:01.279,0:32:05.200
yeah that’s never a problem there never

0:32:04.000,0:32:08.399
really a problem

0:32:05.200,0:32:10.880
shake hands when greeting someone new uh

0:32:08.399,0:32:11.440
i do shake hands when i believe someone

0:32:10.880,0:32:14.480
knew

0:32:11.440,0:32:17.679
what well not with within

0:32:14.480,0:32:18.799
when i could um take care of basic

0:32:17.679,0:32:21.440
hygiene

0:32:18.799,0:32:23.200
yeah i tried doing that you know you

0:32:21.440,0:32:26.320
wear masks all the time now too

0:32:23.200,0:32:28.240
i mean yeah i use appropriate language

0:32:26.320,0:32:30.159
and answer questions i really don’t

0:32:28.240,0:32:32.399
you are not a potty mouth i will give

0:32:30.159,0:32:34.960
you that yeah i don’t blurt out

0:32:32.399,0:32:36.880
like bad words to people i do use flying

0:32:34.960,0:32:39.919
around my friends but i don’t really use

0:32:36.880,0:32:41.760
around like older people or anything

0:32:39.919,0:32:43.840
even when you lose your temper you don’t

0:32:41.760,0:32:46.880
you don’t lose your

0:32:43.840,0:32:48.159
your control over what you say i give

0:32:46.880,0:32:51.600
you credit for that

0:32:48.159,0:32:54.640
yeah somehow don’t entirely know i don’t

0:32:51.600,0:32:57.679
so you don’t get that from me i know uh

0:32:54.640,0:33:01.200
proper manners um

0:32:57.679,0:33:02.960
mostly um

0:33:01.200,0:33:04.399
you do wear a lot of your food though

0:33:02.960,0:33:07.519
and we’re working on that

0:33:04.399,0:33:08.080
yeah working on it just learned how to

0:33:07.519,0:33:11.440
drink

0:33:08.080,0:33:14.000
from a cup properly so that’s so you had

0:33:11.440,0:33:15.600
a drinking problem

0:33:14.000,0:33:17.039
like different kind of drinking problems

0:33:15.600,0:33:18.080
yeah a different kind of drinking

0:33:17.039,0:33:19.840
problem

0:33:18.080,0:33:21.440
uh right thank you notes i’ll probably

0:33:19.840,0:33:24.480
be doing that a bit more

0:33:21.440,0:33:26.559
um so yeah probably pretty good when

0:33:24.480,0:33:28.000
the spec yeah i think for the most part

0:33:26.559,0:33:29.679
you’re pretty good

0:33:28.000,0:33:31.440
so let’s take our last break here we’ll

0:33:29.679,0:33:35.360
come back and we’ll talk about

0:33:31.440,0:33:35.360
how to encourage good manners in your

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teens

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welcome back today we are talking about

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common courtesies

0:34:47.440,0:34:50.800
and now we’re going to be discussing how

0:34:49.919,0:34:53.440
to encourage

0:34:50.800,0:34:55.599
good manners in your teens you can get

0:34:53.440,0:34:58.160
your teen to use their manners

0:34:55.599,0:35:00.240
the same way you get them to do anything

0:34:58.160,0:35:02.480
else you bribe them

0:35:00.240,0:35:04.160
no are you just waiting to say that yes

0:35:02.480,0:35:07.040
oh my gosh

0:35:04.160,0:35:08.079
no i don’t think that’s part of this

0:35:07.040,0:35:10.240
anyway

0:35:08.079,0:35:12.720
the first thing we have is to be clear

0:35:10.240,0:35:14.160
about what you expect

0:35:12.720,0:35:16.240
that makes perfect sense and that’s kind

0:35:14.160,0:35:18.400
of what i was saying about with the

0:35:16.240,0:35:20.560
school you know school kind of just

0:35:18.400,0:35:23.520
assumes you know how to be polite right

0:35:20.560,0:35:24.720
yeah so you need to explain what you

0:35:23.520,0:35:26.880
want

0:35:24.720,0:35:29.440
what else we got next up we have give

0:35:26.880,0:35:32.720
you teen consequences when necessary

0:35:29.440,0:35:34.320
that’s right punish them right when

0:35:32.720,0:35:36.400
necessary

0:35:34.320,0:35:37.680
speak softly and carry a big stick

0:35:36.400,0:35:40.160
theodore roosevelt

0:35:37.680,0:35:41.160
what it was it was one of his famous

0:35:40.160,0:35:45.440
sayings yeah

0:35:41.160,0:35:49.599
okay then we’re not gonna read into that

0:35:45.440,0:35:52.160
um model the behavior you want to see

0:35:49.599,0:35:53.359
lead by example yeah pretty much and i

0:35:52.160,0:35:54.960
definitely think

0:35:53.359,0:35:57.440
so yeah that’s probably one of the

0:35:54.960,0:35:59.280
better ones yeah

0:35:57.440,0:36:00.960
next up we have talked about the ven

0:35:59.280,0:36:02.880
abba betta

0:36:00.960,0:36:04.079
talk about the benefits of having good

0:36:02.880,0:36:06.160
manners

0:36:04.079,0:36:07.359
sure treat people like you want to be

0:36:06.160,0:36:09.040
treated yourself

0:36:07.359,0:36:11.200
yeah i think that’s probably the most

0:36:09.040,0:36:14.720
basic benefit you get from this

0:36:11.200,0:36:16.560
yeah pretty much uh next up

0:36:14.720,0:36:18.320
avoid lecturing your teen or

0:36:16.560,0:36:19.280
embarrassing them in public when they

0:36:18.320,0:36:21.280
make a mistake

0:36:19.280,0:36:24.079
is that directly directed at me

0:36:21.280,0:36:24.079
specifically

0:36:24.640,0:36:30.720
i mean considering

0:36:28.240,0:36:33.119
instead have private conversations about

0:36:30.720,0:36:37.359
their manners when you see a problem

0:36:33.119,0:36:40.880
except to the rule on

0:36:37.359,0:36:44.160
disrespect if your teen is disrespectful

0:36:40.880,0:36:44.960
toward you intervene right away make it

0:36:44.160,0:36:47.280
clear

0:36:44.960,0:36:49.520
that you won’t tolerate being treated in

0:36:47.280,0:36:52.079
an unkind manner

0:36:49.520,0:36:54.320
remove your teens privileges and allow

0:36:52.079,0:36:58.000
them to earn their privileges back

0:36:54.320,0:37:00.240
when they behave politely the biggest

0:36:58.000,0:37:01.520
i think thing here that i’ve had that i

0:37:00.240,0:37:05.359
can convey

0:37:01.520,0:37:08.640
is as a child my

0:37:05.359,0:37:12.400
father was was you know he was

0:37:08.640,0:37:14.640
abusive unfortunately but he treated my

0:37:12.400,0:37:17.839
mom really bad

0:37:14.640,0:37:19.200
and the funny thing was is that if any

0:37:17.839,0:37:21.440
of my brothers

0:37:19.200,0:37:23.119
raised their voice to my mom or spoke

0:37:21.440,0:37:26.320
disrespectfully

0:37:23.119,0:37:28.480
he would immediately jump to her defense

0:37:26.320,0:37:30.160
and yell at any of us who are

0:37:28.480,0:37:32.960
disrespecting her

0:37:30.160,0:37:34.839
yet he didn’t practice it himself which

0:37:32.960,0:37:37.520
was kind of annoying

0:37:34.839,0:37:39.520
yeah uh they also say give your teen

0:37:37.520,0:37:42.079
opportunities to practice

0:37:39.520,0:37:43.280
good manners returning an item to the

0:37:42.079,0:37:46.000
store

0:37:43.280,0:37:47.920
scheduling their own appointment asking

0:37:46.000,0:37:49.920
the wait staff for another drink in a

0:37:47.920,0:37:53.119
restaurant

0:37:49.920,0:37:55.119
from the server and chances are you know

0:37:53.119,0:37:56.960
for them it’s pr it’s an ability to

0:37:55.119,0:37:58.800
practice their skills

0:37:56.960,0:38:00.240
from a social standpoint from a polite

0:37:58.800,0:38:02.640
standpoint

0:38:00.240,0:38:03.280
do we do any of these things for you or

0:38:02.640,0:38:06.400
to you

0:38:03.280,0:38:06.400
or with you or

0:38:06.560,0:38:10.720
i mean i don’t know if you’ve ever made

0:38:08.880,0:38:13.760
me schedule my own appointment

0:38:10.720,0:38:15.760
not yet no no returning an item to the

0:38:13.760,0:38:18.480
store i sometimes go with you when you

0:38:15.760,0:38:22.640
guys return items to stores

0:38:18.480,0:38:22.640
asking the wait staff for another drink

0:38:22.800,0:38:27.200
um we just want you to ask the wait

0:38:26.400,0:38:30.320
staff for

0:38:27.200,0:38:32.320
the food that you want yeah but

0:38:30.320,0:38:33.760
this is a very good example of why we do

0:38:32.320,0:38:35.280
that we don’t do that because we don’t

0:38:33.760,0:38:37.359
want to ask them

0:38:35.280,0:38:39.040
we do it because it’s a it’s an

0:38:37.359,0:38:42.079
excellent opportunity

0:38:39.040,0:38:43.839
for you to get practice doing it

0:38:42.079,0:38:46.240
if you don’t go out and engage with

0:38:43.839,0:38:48.640
people and talk to people whether it’s

0:38:46.240,0:38:51.680
in a professional environment like this

0:38:48.640,0:38:53.839
or in school or whatever

0:38:51.680,0:38:55.440
you’ll never get a chance to practice it

0:38:53.839,0:38:57.680
and then when you have to do it like if

0:38:55.440,0:39:00.720
you have to go for a job interview

0:38:57.680,0:39:04.800
you’ll and i’ve interviewed people who

0:39:00.720,0:39:06.560
have no social skills whatsoever and

0:39:04.800,0:39:08.560
a job interview and i’ve interviewed a

0:39:06.560,0:39:12.880
lot of people

0:39:08.560,0:39:15.839
a job interview is about getting

0:39:12.880,0:39:16.240
the other person to talk i need to find

0:39:15.839,0:39:18.240
out

0:39:16.240,0:39:19.200
what their personality is i need to find

0:39:18.240,0:39:21.200
out what their professional

0:39:19.200,0:39:24.960
qualifications are what their background

0:39:21.200,0:39:27.599
is what their professional history is

0:39:24.960,0:39:28.800
most people come in with a resume but

0:39:27.599,0:39:31.440
that resume doesn’t

0:39:28.800,0:39:33.119
tell me anything about them one i have

0:39:31.440,0:39:35.359
to verify what’s on that resume and i

0:39:33.119,0:39:37.200
can only do that by talking to them

0:39:35.359,0:39:38.400
so when i get people that that are in my

0:39:37.200,0:39:42.000
office

0:39:38.400,0:39:44.640
who lack the ability to interact like

0:39:42.000,0:39:46.240
this because they haven’t had the

0:39:44.640,0:39:48.400
practice

0:39:46.240,0:39:50.000
it’s exceedingly painful to try and

0:39:48.400,0:39:51.040
interview someone like that because they

0:39:50.000,0:39:54.160
don’t want to talk

0:39:51.040,0:39:56.560
they’re terrified to talk so

0:39:54.160,0:39:57.760
i’m usually a pretty easy interview

0:39:56.560,0:40:00.880
because

0:39:57.760,0:40:03.760
i’ll spend the first third or or

0:40:00.880,0:40:05.440
half of the interview not talking about

0:40:03.760,0:40:07.520
anything that has to do

0:40:05.440,0:40:09.119
with the resume or the job or the

0:40:07.520,0:40:11.280
company or anything

0:40:09.119,0:40:12.720
it’s just icebreakers to get this person

0:40:11.280,0:40:14.800
to talk

0:40:12.720,0:40:16.400
and once they start talking and they get

0:40:14.800,0:40:18.640
comfortable

0:40:16.400,0:40:20.079
then they open up then i can start

0:40:18.640,0:40:21.359
asking the questions i just interviewed

0:40:20.079,0:40:24.960
a guy the other day

0:40:21.359,0:40:27.520
he was very nervous when he came in and

0:40:24.960,0:40:28.720
it took me about 15-20 minutes of this

0:40:27.520,0:40:30.800
interview

0:40:28.720,0:40:32.160
to finally get him comfortable and

0:40:30.800,0:40:35.280
realize and again

0:40:32.160,0:40:38.000
part of that’s probably because i’m

0:40:35.280,0:40:39.119
very intimidating in fact the individual

0:40:38.000,0:40:42.480
that came in was a

0:40:39.119,0:40:45.760
was a very small guy

0:40:42.480,0:40:47.520
and you know i probably had about

0:40:45.760,0:40:48.880
two and a half feet of height on the guy

0:40:47.520,0:40:51.440
so

0:40:48.880,0:40:53.040
that tends to put people on the

0:40:51.440,0:40:56.079
defensive

0:40:53.040,0:40:58.000
but the moral of the story here is you

0:40:56.079,0:40:58.720
have to learn these skills and the time

0:40:58.000,0:41:01.440
to learn them

0:40:58.720,0:41:02.240
is when you’re a teenager so if it’s a

0:41:01.440,0:41:03.839
matter of

0:41:02.240,0:41:05.520
ordering your dinner at the restaurant

0:41:03.839,0:41:08.560
or asking for a refill that

0:41:05.520,0:41:11.599
gets you started down that path

0:41:08.560,0:41:11.839
it’s much better to do it then and flub

0:41:11.599,0:41:13.839
it

0:41:11.839,0:41:15.760
and fail and learn from your mistakes

0:41:13.839,0:41:16.800
than it is when you really need those

0:41:15.760,0:41:21.280
skills

0:41:16.800,0:41:23.920
right okay that works so

0:41:21.280,0:41:26.400
what else do we have next up we have you

0:41:23.920,0:41:28.079
can also talk about characters on tv or

0:41:26.400,0:41:28.960
in movies and how they interact with

0:41:28.079,0:41:30.800
others

0:41:28.960,0:41:33.200
discuss how manners affect people’s

0:41:30.800,0:41:34.240
lives when your teen is about to enter a

0:41:33.200,0:41:36.960
new situation

0:41:34.240,0:41:39.280
role play for example before they pick

0:41:36.960,0:41:40.720
up a date for the prom talk about how to

0:41:39.280,0:41:42.400
greet their parents

0:41:40.720,0:41:43.760
or before they go to an apartment on

0:41:42.400,0:41:47.599
their own role play

0:41:43.760,0:41:49.520
how to check in at the desk so a great

0:41:47.599,0:41:51.760
example of this is just about every

0:41:49.520,0:41:55.040
sitcom that’s on tv

0:41:51.760,0:41:57.760
because every sitcom is based on

0:41:55.040,0:42:00.319
a real life situation which is what the

0:41:57.760,0:42:01.760
sit part of it situational comedy

0:42:00.319,0:42:03.920
that’s what that actually stands for

0:42:01.760,0:42:06.319
that’s what that stands for yes

0:42:03.920,0:42:07.040
and what they do is they take an

0:42:06.319,0:42:09.200
everyday

0:42:07.040,0:42:10.560
thing that you do picking a date up for

0:42:09.200,0:42:13.040
the prom

0:42:10.560,0:42:14.240
and they lampoon it they make fun of it

0:42:13.040,0:42:16.720
they tear it apart

0:42:14.240,0:42:18.400
they show you all the wrong things to do

0:42:16.720,0:42:20.960
with it

0:42:18.400,0:42:22.560
and my father was famous for saying

0:42:20.960,0:42:23.920
nobody’s useless you can always serve as

0:42:22.560,0:42:25.760
a bad example

0:42:23.920,0:42:27.920
and that’s what these things do so they

0:42:25.760,0:42:29.200
show you a comedic take on how these

0:42:27.920,0:42:31.359
things happen

0:42:29.200,0:42:33.920
and it’s a great way to learn what not

0:42:31.359,0:42:35.520
to do in those circumstances

0:42:33.920,0:42:37.359
so there’s a lot that you can learn from

0:42:35.520,0:42:37.680
these even though they’re fictional and

0:42:37.359,0:42:40.079
they’re

0:42:37.680,0:42:40.800
they’re made up the situations

0:42:40.079,0:42:44.000
themselves

0:42:40.800,0:42:46.880
are inspired by real life situations

0:42:44.000,0:42:48.960
so that’s a great example of that they

0:42:46.880,0:42:51.359
also go on to say that when you see your

0:42:48.960,0:42:52.319
team display good manners point it out

0:42:51.359,0:42:54.079
and i’ve always been

0:42:52.319,0:42:56.160
in favor of this if you do something

0:42:54.079,0:42:58.960
right you deserve to have it pointed out

0:42:56.160,0:42:59.920
and be praised for it acknowledge when

0:42:58.960,0:43:02.319
they’re doing a

0:42:59.920,0:43:04.000
good job and they’ll be more likely to

0:43:02.319,0:43:06.960
keep up the good work

0:43:04.000,0:43:08.880
your feedback can be critical component

0:43:06.960,0:43:09.680
of your teen’s ability to learn new

0:43:08.880,0:43:12.800
manners and

0:43:09.680,0:43:15.680
sharpen their skills now how

0:43:12.800,0:43:16.880
do mommy and daddy do with manners if

0:43:15.680,0:43:19.359
you’re

0:43:16.880,0:43:20.800
not observing manners or if you are how

0:43:19.359,0:43:22.480
do we treat you with that

0:43:20.800,0:43:24.480
you always make sure that when i do

0:43:22.480,0:43:27.200
observe good manners you do

0:43:24.480,0:43:28.560
um compliment me on it and say hey

0:43:27.200,0:43:31.760
you’re doing a good job

0:43:28.560,0:43:34.480
if i am doing something wrong you tend

0:43:31.760,0:43:35.680
to point it out and kind of give me a

0:43:34.480,0:43:38.560
little lecture

0:43:35.680,0:43:39.839
about it and that’s what i do i lecture

0:43:38.560,0:43:41.520
i should have been a university

0:43:39.839,0:43:43.040
professor somewhere

0:43:41.520,0:43:44.960
i probably wouldn’t have any students in

0:43:43.040,0:43:46.079
my class though why

0:43:44.960,0:43:48.480
because they wouldn’t want to listen to

0:43:46.079,0:43:53.040
me lecture

0:43:48.480,0:43:55.119
so overall how do mommy and daddy do

0:43:53.040,0:43:57.040
setting an example and setting the

0:43:55.119,0:44:00.480
expectations for you

0:43:57.040,0:44:01.839
you probably definitely um set a good

0:44:00.480,0:44:04.319
example for me

0:44:01.839,0:44:05.680
um and make sure that i am observing

0:44:04.319,0:44:08.319
proper manners

0:44:05.680,0:44:09.520
so i’d say you pretty good and i think

0:44:08.319,0:44:12.000
for the most part you’re

0:44:09.520,0:44:15.119
fairly successful at what we do and

0:44:12.000,0:44:16.960
there’s not too many chances for us to

0:44:15.119,0:44:18.480
criticize you or complain a lot of it’s

0:44:16.960,0:44:20.640
really just a matter of teaching you the

0:44:18.480,0:44:23.119
right thing to do because sometimes

0:44:20.640,0:44:25.040
until you face a certain situation it’s

0:44:23.119,0:44:27.440
difficult to kind of

0:44:25.040,0:44:28.720
prepare you for it you know like for

0:44:27.440,0:44:30.480
instance

0:44:28.720,0:44:32.319
we have a orthodontics appointment

0:44:30.480,0:44:35.200
coming up well you do

0:44:32.319,0:44:36.800
fantastic at your orthodontics you know

0:44:35.200,0:44:38.560
you can go in there you can talk to the

0:44:36.800,0:44:39.760
nurse you can talk to the doctor you

0:44:38.560,0:44:41.280
interact with

0:44:39.760,0:44:42.800
you know other patients that are there

0:44:41.280,0:44:45.119
and you’re

0:44:42.800,0:44:47.760
because you’ve been doing it for so long

0:44:45.119,0:44:49.680
you’re an ace in that environment

0:44:47.760,0:44:51.119
you know to the point that you’re

0:44:49.680,0:44:53.359
probably more comfortable talking to the

0:44:51.119,0:44:55.280
doctor there than i am

0:44:53.359,0:44:56.880
so that’s one area that you’re very good

0:44:55.280,0:44:58.800
at and but it’s because you’ve had a lot

0:44:56.880,0:45:00.720
of exposure to it a lot of practice

0:44:58.800,0:45:02.240
probably yeah and that’s the way

0:45:00.720,0:45:04.319
courtesy is and

0:45:02.240,0:45:06.720
in just about every instance it’s one of

0:45:04.319,0:45:09.839
those things that

0:45:06.720,0:45:12.240
like a muscle if you don’t exercise it

0:45:09.839,0:45:14.880
it starts to atrophy and it’s harder and

0:45:12.240,0:45:17.440
harder to remember to do it

0:45:14.880,0:45:18.000
so if you try and do it all the time

0:45:17.440,0:45:21.359
you’re better

0:45:18.000,0:45:23.760
off email all right so here’s a

0:45:21.359,0:45:25.599
something that i get dinged on at work a

0:45:23.760,0:45:27.839
lot really for

0:45:25.599,0:45:29.280
when i write emails i write emails like

0:45:27.839,0:45:33.280
i’m writing letters

0:45:29.280,0:45:35.920
i have a salutation i have a greeting

0:45:33.280,0:45:37.280
i have a message body you know the

0:45:35.920,0:45:39.920
entire message

0:45:37.280,0:45:40.800
and then i have a close and a conclusion

0:45:39.920,0:45:43.920
to it

0:45:40.800,0:45:46.560
and a signature to it you know i

0:45:43.920,0:45:48.240
i was taught in school that this is how

0:45:46.560,0:45:51.200
you write a letter

0:45:48.240,0:45:52.560
and i do it a lot and as a result my

0:45:51.200,0:45:55.440
emails tend to be

0:45:52.560,0:45:57.119
very long and very formal i don’t work

0:45:55.440,0:45:58.640
in a very formal environment

0:45:57.119,0:46:01.920
so a lot of times when i do that to

0:45:58.640,0:46:05.520
people it kind of puts them

0:46:01.920,0:46:06.960
on the defensive because they think

0:46:05.520,0:46:08.319
a lot of people when you’re formal with

0:46:06.960,0:46:09.839
them they think that there’s a

0:46:08.319,0:46:13.119
disciplinary action

0:46:09.839,0:46:14.000
or there’s because of my position with

0:46:13.119,0:46:17.040
the company as well

0:46:14.000,0:46:19.839
because i’m upper management there

0:46:17.040,0:46:21.680
there’s almost this sense of oh my god

0:46:19.839,0:46:23.839
he’s doing this to document it

0:46:21.680,0:46:26.160
for hr for discipline reasons or

0:46:23.839,0:46:27.920
something like that and it’s not that

0:46:26.160,0:46:29.520
it’s just that’s the way that i learned

0:46:27.920,0:46:32.000
to write letters because

0:46:29.520,0:46:33.520
if i’m going to engage you with a letter

0:46:32.000,0:46:35.359
or an email

0:46:33.520,0:46:37.520
you deserve that level of attention and

0:46:35.359,0:46:39.920
respect

0:46:37.520,0:46:41.280
even my my boss yells at me for that

0:46:39.920,0:46:42.880
because i’ll get one or two word

0:46:41.280,0:46:44.560
responses from him

0:46:42.880,0:46:46.000
and he’ll be like ah too long didn’t

0:46:44.560,0:46:49.200
read

0:46:46.000,0:46:51.280
second okay well i don’t know how to

0:46:49.200,0:46:53.760
communicate in shorthand that’s just i

0:46:51.280,0:46:56.640
was i was never taught that

0:46:53.760,0:46:57.280
you know i communicate in a formal way

0:46:56.640,0:46:59.040
because

0:46:57.280,0:47:01.359
to me it’s always been a sign of respect

0:46:59.040,0:47:02.560
for the other person

0:47:01.359,0:47:04.720
the rest of the world doesn’t always

0:47:02.560,0:47:06.000
look at it like that though yeah maybe

0:47:04.720,0:47:08.319
hopefully putting this

0:47:06.000,0:47:10.079
out will get people to understand that a

0:47:08.319,0:47:13.200
bit more oh i highly doubt my boss

0:47:10.079,0:47:13.200
watches our podcast

0:47:13.920,0:47:17.920
it’s wishful thinking though i’ll give

0:47:15.520,0:47:19.280
you that so i think that

0:47:17.920,0:47:21.760
we’ve covered pretty much everything we

0:47:19.280,0:47:23.119
wanted to cover today uh let’s take a

0:47:21.760,0:47:25.570
quick break we’ll come back and we’ll

0:47:23.119,0:47:30.400
get your closing remarks

0:47:25.570,0:47:32.960
[Music]

0:47:30.400,0:47:34.319
go for your closing remarks alrighty to

0:47:32.960,0:47:37.680
everyone out there

0:47:34.319,0:47:40.880
i just wanted to say that

0:47:37.680,0:47:43.920
everyone should probably relearn and

0:47:40.880,0:47:45.599
re-teach common courtesy because

0:47:43.920,0:47:48.000
while you don’t have to go to the

0:47:45.599,0:47:48.960
extremes of common courtesy it’s good to

0:47:48.000,0:47:51.760
at least

0:47:48.960,0:47:52.000
instill in your teens for the rest of

0:47:51.760,0:47:55.280
their

0:47:52.000,0:47:58.720
lives about common courtesy so that

0:47:55.280,0:47:59.680
you know the rest every everyone they

0:47:58.720,0:48:01.760
encounter

0:47:59.680,0:48:04.000
you know they’re proper with them they

0:48:01.760,0:48:07.680
can gain better relationships

0:48:04.000,0:48:11.040
and ultimately have a better life okay

0:48:07.680,0:48:13.599
good advice thank you um

0:48:11.040,0:48:14.480
before we go i do want to beg for i mean

0:48:13.599,0:48:18.000
uh remind

0:48:14.480,0:48:20.240
folks uh that you can subscribe to

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0:48:34.640,0:48:37.680
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0:48:37.680,0:48:41.520
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0:48:45.599,0:48:48.160
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0:48:50.400,0:48:54.960
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0:50:16.400,0:50:19.280
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0:50:17.440,0:50:20.800
very good now before we go i do want to

0:50:19.280,0:50:24.319
point out

0:50:20.800,0:50:26.000
that i often end the show on some random

0:50:24.319,0:50:27.760
camera angle

0:50:26.000,0:50:29.599
and madison here is always trying to

0:50:27.760,0:50:32.400
figure out which camera angle it

0:50:29.599,0:50:33.440
is because she likes to wave to the

0:50:32.400,0:50:35.760
camera

0:50:33.440,0:50:37.440
before i go to the outro which is always

0:50:35.760,0:50:39.599
the same camera angle

0:50:37.440,0:50:41.839
so the confusing part right now is we’re

0:50:39.599,0:50:45.040
on that camera

0:50:41.839,0:50:48.240
so i’m not going to change it

0:50:45.040,0:50:50.800
i’m just going to cut to the outro

0:50:48.240,0:50:51.680
that’s all folks bye everyone another

0:50:50.800,0:50:54.130
one in the box

0:50:51.680,0:51:22.640
we’re out

0:50:54.130,0:51:24.720
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you

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